I found your blog because I've been reading mamapundit. I lost my dad on June 19 and I have been struggling. I spend a lot of my time reading blogs of people who are in mourning also. Maybe it's not the healthiest thing to do but it brings me a small amount of comfort.
The time between his death and the mass/burial were filled with busy work. Then the burial occurred, the family and friends all left town and I've been struggling with the reality that he's no longer here since then.
My son will never know his grandpa either and that breaks my heart. For you and I, I hope it gets easier.
I was just putting my son to bed and thinking how what I really want is a long time to be quiet and try to make peace with the loss of my dad. But life is pretty much demanding my immediate return. Tough love from the universe maybe.
I think it's good to know that we're not alone, even though we wouldn't wish for anyone to join us in grief.
I lost my dad three years ago and your feelings so echo my own. Just want you to know you're not alone. Other people will go to the grocery store or take showers and behave as though it's a perfectly normal day, but we know our dads aren't here, and nothing will ever be the same.
Thank you. I am constantly reminded of my dad, of things he would have found funny or things he would have wanted to know. I can't believe I'm the only one who sees the huge gap left in the world.
Hi - I found your site from Mama Pundit and think it was meant to be as we buried my precious dad on July 10. He was 84, completely self-made - a retired attorney who had grown up in a very tough area of Brooklyn and fought in WW II. He had been in good health until a stroke two years ago. The past two years have been filled with his health ups and downs but he was incredibly tough and always came back from whatever setback had occurred. He was on kidney dialysis and his wife, my stepmother, decided the time had come to stop his treatment. I disagreed as he still knew us all, could enjoy a good meal, and had a spark of life in his eyes that still was bright. She had his power of attorney and proceeded to stop the dialysis and he died one week later. I feel like I failed him in some intrinsic way because I couldn't stop her. I'm sorry to share my pain here when yours is so great but I know how you feel when you say you can't do this - i can't believe I'm living in a world where he no longer exists.
That's so painful, I'm so sorry. I too feel like I failed my dad. I keep thinking that he never would have let this happen to me. I know that's not reasonable. And more importantly I know my dad would be exasperated at the thought.
You are clearly deeply connected to your dad. He sounds like an amazing man.
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The time between his death and the mass/burial were filled with busy work. Then the burial occurred, the family and friends all left town and I've been struggling with the reality that he's no longer here since then.
My son will never know his grandpa either and that breaks my heart. For you and I, I hope it gets easier.
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I was just putting my son to bed and thinking how what I really want is a long time to be quiet and try to make peace with the loss of my dad. But life is pretty much demanding my immediate return. Tough love from the universe maybe.
I think it's good to know that we're not alone, even though we wouldn't wish for anyone to join us in grief.
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I wish both our dads could be here.
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You are clearly deeply connected to your dad. He sounds like an amazing man.
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