Comments | jaymark108: Enter the Klutz

jaymark108

Enter the Klutz

Apr 24, 2006 14:12

The past twenty four hours have been "Josh Hurts Himself" day. Three times now I've bashed a finger or elbow against a sharp corner. I swear, computers will be the death of a thousand cuts of me.

As a completely random topic, how do you broach the subject of transsexuality with someone?

damage, queerness

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Broaching the Subject of "Transsexuality" ravir April 24 2006, 19:41:58 UTC

Josh,

'Sexual orientation' fits right up there with 'religion' and 'politics' as subjects best not discussed with people you aren't very familiar with already. Yes, bringing up any of these subjects is a quick way to BECOME very familiar with someone, but it's also a quick way to nip a blooming relationship in the bud.

It could be argued that anyone who would take offense isn't someone you'd want to waste time getting to know anyway. On the other hand, bringing up sensitive subjects too soon can end a relationship before a solid foundation has been laid that would support the mutual respect required to support such interaction, in the same way that having sex before marriage can strain a developing relationship.

Unfortunately, most of Western Society (at least -- I'm not as well versed with other societies) still considers the subject taboo. If, on the other hand, one enjoys tip-toeing through minefields ...

Love,
Dad

travspence April 24 2006, 20:04:56 UTC

As a completely random topic, how do you broach the subject of transsexuality with someone?

In what context?

jaymark108 April 25 2006, 01:41:49 UTC

In an intentionally vague context.

logopolys April 24 2006, 20:26:58 UTC

"Gosh, I've bashed myself today. I suppose I wouldn't have this problem with the shapely balance of a female...."

jaymark108 April 24 2006, 22:57:01 UTC

lolz

potterndresden April 24 2006, 21:44:13 UTC

Sounds like your day has not been good. Jeeze, I know how it feels to always hurt myself. I'm the queen of the clutzes. lol

On the other issue, I'm not sure. I suppose you would just get a feel for how the person would react first. It depends on if a person is saying, "This is me." or if they are just discussing it. But one should defenately discover how a person feels about the subject before broaching it, because you wouldn't want to have a bad reaction and then have to deal with that too. I don't see why people would have a hard time talking about that, but maybe that's just me...i don't know

jaymark108 April 24 2006, 23:05:35 UTC

> I don't see why people would have a hard time talking about that, but maybe that's just me

Well, being different isn't much fun. In fact, it's terrifying. And where it becomes hard to hide how you are different, sometimes you want to get as far away from it as possible.

On the other hand, sometimes it's nice to find other people similar to you to some degree. And on the other-other hand, maybe it's not.

Sometimes I wish my gender confusion could be more visible. Then again, usually I don't.

potterndresden April 24 2006, 23:22:52 UTC

I'm sure that it isn't much fun being different. I mean, I'm different from others in some ways and find it super difficult, so I can't begin to imagine how hard it would be to have something like that as my difference. But if someone came up to me and talked about it, I would try to be as understanding as possible. That is something that I've never, ever done...judge people I mean. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'll listen. :D

jaymark108 April 24 2006, 23:36:43 UTC

Fortunately, I have plenty of understanding friends (on LJ and in real life). But then, my transgenderedness is really subtle.

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mgs904 April 25 2006, 17:05:15 UTC

"rofl"s

Sorry your day seems to sound about how my life goes.
w00t pain everyday XD