Comments | javvie: Words that come undone

javvie

Words that come undone

Jan 14, 2012 10:19

Do you have those situations where you read a blog entry and you want to comment to let the person know you’ve read it but you decide to do it later because you want to make a proper comment? Well it happens to me almost all the time. And when you go back to it, the person has already blogged something new and you comment on that entry instead of ( Read more... )

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yoshiblack16 January 14 2012, 04:10:29 UTC

It happens to me all the time too. Sometimes I don't even know what to say so I end up not doing it.

I don't, I stopped when I was 8 or 9 I think. I never really liked to hug or kiss anybody when I was a child because it felt like I had to do it rather than a show of affection... Now it's almost impossible for me to show emotion in front of my family mostly because they expect me not to. Only rarely I hug any of then when I truly feel like it but I don't know/think that they recognize the gesture as a real show of affection anymore.

javvie January 15 2012, 08:20:29 UTC

I understand. Sometimes I struggle whether commenting with one or two words would mean anything when there's nothing to add on. But I'm guilty of reading your entries and not commenting.

Only rarely I hug any of then when I truly feel like it but I don't know/think that they recognize the gesture as a real show of affection anymore.

Thank for sharing that. It adds another dimension on this to reflect. I think it's human for us to categorize things and people so even when I use love you when talking to someone, there are so many levels. But in the first place, it isn't easy for one (or me) to say love you. Because it has to mean something. Talk is cheap. It's like how I struggle to use "dear", "love" and the many endearments online because it mean something, yet perhaps it's culture or upbringing, some people can use it easily or commonly. There are times when I mean it more... I just get more confused. Sorry for the ramble. But I'll be thinking about it.... (finding a balance....)

yoshiblack16 January 16 2012, 03:37:27 UTC

No, I get what you mean, I even have that problem with language. I've only come to share my feelings at all now after I've learned a second language. Somehow I've found it easier to express myself in a language that I isn't my own. If it's hard for me to say I love you or even I'm sorry and really mean it, it's even harder to say any of those in my own language.

And I feel them but I rarely ever voice them.

i_am_zan January 14 2012, 14:42:59 UTC

I comment when I can, I comment when I feel I have something to add, mostly I read, and sometimes because time runs away from me, I forget to comment when I want to. I don't expect anything less or more from those of my friends than who they are ( ... )

javvie January 15 2012, 08:27:27 UTC

I said to her 'hopefully never'.

You go Zan!

I agree with you wholeheartedly on the matter. Children thrive on personal contact and hugs and there should never be a stop! I think family life will improve when everyone shares love. Life is too short, we should value, appreciate and reaffirm the people we care for.

And yes *giggles* your girl is tall! She is so beautiful. And the boy is handsome! They're so lucky to have such wonderful parents. They are really so good kids to be around. *HUGS*

Love is a sun that makes not moons of others but makes more stars to shine.
I stand corrected love. ♥

Also yes I am also a Daddy's girl.
Yay us!

I am never ashamed to let anyone know I put my family first. And my friends know that my family is very important in my life (all holidays and sundays are family time). I'm really happy that my family is great. We all have our troubles and spats but at the end of the day, we're a family. :)

orangerobots January 14 2012, 15:23:17 UTC

It's a blessing to be around you, because you have this way of making the people around you feel so, so loved.

javvie January 15 2012, 08:27:46 UTC

♥!!

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javvie January 15 2012, 08:37:47 UTC

The strange thing is while I would reaffirm and verbally share my love with those I cherish and to some extent hugs, I have some issues with personal space. Growing up, even in my teens, I never liked being hug or touched. Even today, I would not initiate contact (almost never) unless I am comfortable with that person (which is very few). And I definitely hate sharing straws or drinks with people. LOL.

When I need courage, I always remind myself to imagine a world without that person. There will never be enough time to let the person know he or she is loved. When too late happens, it happens. And you never know when you save or help someone who really needs it. If it's within our power to make someone happy, why not?

And because I'm curious, do you have siblings? Do you have a religion? XD You don't have to answer if you're not comfortable!

PS. Been meaning to comment on mi-no! Mi-no is a beauty. XDD

becquinho January 17 2012, 15:18:47 UTC

I..used to be so good at prompt comments, now I read everything promptly and unless it is a post of dire importance, usually put on my catch up filter once a week and comment on everything important or from people who don't post as frequently. but..it is tricky at times, I don't think people should feel obilgated to comment or force something out..I..usually do it because I want to note to the writer that I read it and cared, and they matter to me (and because I don't like having silent lurkers on my f-list personally, so I'd rather not be that one someone's elses)..sometimes even to try and help ♥ (sob..i think my commenting habits are partially spawned by good friends who sometimes do all their catch up for 1-2 months at a time and just comment on all your backlogged posts in one spree gahsjdk ( ... )