Church is Amusing... Kinda

[jadewik]

I have issues sometimes with women at church... not sure any of you know because I don't like to shout my religious preferences from the rooftops, but I'm Mormon. That's right, I'm a Mormon chick with an engineering degree who got married in her mid-20's and is almost 30 with no kids. I'm a Mormon enigma-- I can't honestly name another married and

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[daintress]

It's amazing how completely universal some of this is. As you know, I am not Mormon. I am a non-denominational Christian who is stuck going to a Baptist church because my husband works there (in tech - not as a pastor

[jadewik]

I feel strange saying this... but that's comforting to know. Comforting, but sad.

I'm to the point where I come home and crack jokes left and right about how I should become a church super hero or poltergeist because I'm invisible. Part of that is because I put up a "don't talk to me" front-- because I'm tired of responding to "fake" only to be forgotten or ignored. People avoid me because I look unapproachable. I can live with that... but it's when they approach and ignore me or get upset when I'm honest that irks me. Grrr.

[daintress]

It does feel strange, but I thought the same thing when I read your post. At least it isn't anything wrong with us, you know?

I am fortunate to attend a church where it's fairly easy to get lost in the shuffle - I don't even sit in the congregation. I arrive, go immediately backstage, and sit through the service in the TV room, running iris on the cameras that capture the service to be saved onto DVDs for the homebound, or broadcast onto the internet. This allows me to hear the sermon without having to hug half the town. It's been really good for my peace of mind.....

[jadewik]

I could go to another ward, which I have done when I was a teenager. The thing is-- I'm fond of my religion (the doctrine). I just can't stand the people!

The only advice I could have for your friend is to stop trying to look for a husband. It's been my experience (and my observation with others) that when you stop looking, that's when you find someone... and you don't just find some guy willing to marry you, but you find the best man for you because you're being you. I was perfectly content being the crazy cat-lady. Jordan had to come along and screw it up! LOL!

OoOoh! That's cool your brother is engaged. I don't care if they're having kids, I want to know if Lily is going to be a flower girl! Hehe.

[daintress]

Whatever you do, don't let go of a doctrine you believe in to go to another church in the hopes that the people will be different. People everywhere are the same.......there are the good ones and bad ones in every church.