my character has a gender, please use it

[ivy_chan]

Dear Sunday D&D group.

You've all been lovely. Lovely. The lack of that douchebag makes this game so much more enjoyable

Comments

[redbrunja]

That whole situation is just weird.

[ivy_chan]

Yeah. I'm just...eye twitching with the constant pronoun fail. It makes me want to just play female characters constantly, but...geez, if I WANT to play a male character, it should be recognized as such. Next time they do it IC, Rayne is just going to react accordingly and mock them.

[redbrunja]

That sounds like a great way to handle it. Joking about it seems like a very guy-like way to deal with the problem.

I'm hoping none of these guys have effeminate/transgender gay friends?

[aflightoffancy]

Because I can't see how they can be so snide about a freaking non-existent character, yet carry on normal, polite conversation with a person.

[ivy_chan]

I don't think they have transgender friends, no. Gay friends, yeah. And the ironic thing is that the people who are being the most snide about being corrected are the women, not the men. The men go: "Okay, RAYNE does this." Which...still doesn't give the gender signifier, but it's better than nothing. Cynthia this time went: "I'M REFERRING TO RAYNE OOC SO IT DOESN'T MATTER."

Yeeeeah, it does. It's like me referring to her character, Diane, as Fred constantly. Which I might do.

[lalachoy]

Unless a man is super manly in appearance, he is not a real man. Just like how women aren't really women if they don't dress girly. It's all common sense. *rolls eyes*

[ivy_chan]

Oh, right. Yeah, I must have forgotten that important fact! (If that's so, JESUS GOD the fruity bard is WAY prettier than my cleric of vengeance, so how come HE gets the masculine pronoun? >8O)

[caterfree10]

JFC, I hate when people can't even use the right gender pronouns. This reminds me of how my dad got roped into watching the Oprah episode where they had the FtM guy on there who was pregnant and acted just like the guy's parents and refused to use male pronouns for him. It bothered me, but at the time I wasn't as versed on trans issues then so I didn't have the backbone to stand up. :/

Still, it really shouldn't be that hard. If a guy can play as a female character, what's so wrong about a girl playing as a guy character? Double standard much? *sigh*

[ivy_chan]

AUUUUGH TRANSFAIL. I have so much trouble explaining transvestism and transgender and how they are SO VERY MUCH NOT the same thing to my guy friends. Especially 'science' guy. Male brain in female body shouldn't be that hard to grasp, right? Lots of people seem to hit this curious roadblock when they are told that gender =/= sex.

That poor guy. I hope he at least have friends who understand him.

[ivy_chan]

HAS friends, whoa. I lose my grammar when I rage-talk. XD

[caterfree10]

One would THINK that it's not a difficult concept, but apparently, it's so contradictory to many people's mindsets that they can't fathom it. 7_7

And yeah, I'm fairly sure he does. It's been years since the special though, so details are mostly fuzzy. "First pregnant man!" Good God, so much dramatization. ~_~

[scdsam]

First off, HOORAY FOR LACK OF DOUCHEBAG! Seriously, he was stressing me out and I'm not even in the group.

Ordinarily I would give people the (incredibly slow-learning) benefit of the doubt...

but if they're doing just fine recognizing a guy's female RP character then they really have no excuse.

If it was me, I'd respond to their feminine pronouns with something lewdly overly-masculine.

"Her? Oh, you must be referring to HER GIANT, QUIVERING MANHOOD that's now going to be flashed about the village!"

Of course, I'm stubborn and evil like that.

[ivy_chan]

LOL Yup, that would be hysterical. XD I'm...trying to imagine this character ever doing anything like that and it's just...hysterical. Rayne is physically intersex, but gendered male, which might cause confusion...but for months and months and MONTHS?