ликбез: асексуальность
Asexuality is not a pathology; it is not the result of trauma, it is not the result of fear or hatred of sex, it is not the result of medications that suppress libido. Asexual people can and do experience all of these things, but this does not constitute a causal relationship. They can play a complex and intersecting role in an asexual identity, but they are not its sole facet.
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Some asexual people orient themselves along a spectrum of romanticism and aromanticism, describing the natural of the attractions they feel; being asexual doesn’t mean you are not attracted to people, only that you do not experience sexual attraction. Nor does it mean that the nature of those attractions is inherently weaker because sex is not involved.
Some asexuals may be involved in romantic relationships, including polyamorous relationships involving a variety of people who experience different levels of attraction for each other. It is possible to be asexual and queer, as I am, to be asexual and deeply in love with someone, as others are. Many people seem surprised to learn about these aspects of life among the one percent, just as they are surprised to learn that some asexual people are kinky, that some of us may go to sex clubs or attend Folsom Street Fair or work in sex shops.
ну и еще чуть-чуть ссылок (все на английском):
большой сайт asexuality.org - The Asexual Visibility and Education Network
asexuality - жж-сообщество
можно много чего хорошего найти на ютюбе - вот например
колонка на Scientific American Mind
статья в The New Scientist
Asexuals leave the closet, find community из San Francisco Chronicle