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isis_uf

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Jul 12, 2010 13:58

It sucks a lot when you see someone you care about self-destructing and you realize there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

My uncle has $6 in the whole world. He's unemployed. He's suicidal. He's cut himself off from everyone other than my mother (his sister), who lives 3,500 miles away. He's too proud to ask for help and he's combative ( Read more... )

rant, fail, family, ummmm what?

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andacus July 12 2010, 21:04:27 UTC

Run away from home and come see me for a few days.

isis_uf July 12 2010, 21:37:45 UTC

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaant!

susanbones111 July 12 2010, 21:18:29 UTC

My kids could almost tell the same story about their aunt, my sister, except that she is manic-depressive and doesn't take her medication. I'm sorry that you have to go through all this. It is the icky part of families. *hugs*

And another hug for grandma. That is too bad. *hugs*

isis_uf July 12 2010, 21:37:21 UTC

He hasn't had health insurance in so long that I can't remember when he had it. I'm certain he needs medication, too, but he can't get it and wouldn't take it if he could. I honestly believe that he's his own worst enemy, but to hear him tell the tale he's been sabotaged by everyone and everything his entire life. It makes me want to shake him and tell him to wake the fuck up out of his dreamland (which would do zero good, I know). There are probably billions of people in this world that would give anything to have the privileges and opportunities he's enjoyed (I sound more and more like my mom, omg "eat your veggies. don't you know there are starving kids in who would kill for the opportunity to eat those?", but IT IS TRUE... and she was right, too).

I almost hope my grandma goes quickly, as awful as that is, because it means she won't be as aware of it happening and I know that's her worst fear.

Thanks for the hugs.

rj_lupins_kat July 12 2010, 22:07:11 UTC

There's little I can say that will help, other than 'rant all you want - we'll listen.'

Seriously, a full ride through school? Must be nice. I'll be paying student loans for another 20 years at this rate.

Is there anything he enjoys doing that perhaps someone can interest him to get him out and about, to socialize? It sounds like he needs something to focus on, a project or something.

Yeah, someone who is constantly suicidal is stressful on those around them. You all need to each have a chance to step back and not focus on this, else it will overrun your health as well.

Hope things aren't as bad as they're looking with your grandmother.

*hugs*

isis_uf July 12 2010, 23:02:14 UTC

Yeah, my grandparents paid for both of their sons to go to college - not my mom though because she was a girl (ironically, my grandmother was never as happy as she was when she worked before she had kids). Unfortunately one of the only things he enjoys is playing poker and since he's a (long-time sober) alcoholic I found it no surprise that he quickly showed signs of a gambling addiction, too (though this has little to do with his money woes now... that's more to do with not finding work. A self-employed house painter in this economy is hard). Other than that, he's a staunch Catholic - ironically used to set up big dinners for the homeless at the church... which he's likely to need soon - but stopped going after he got disgusted with some of the sex scandals the church went through. We did talk him into calling one of the priests he is still in contact with from St. Mary's, but he got an answering service. I'm hoping they'll call back. I'm no fan of organized religion, generally, but I think throwing himself into doing good through ( ... )