The facts, for those who care to know them

[inverarity]

I banned fpb because of his persistent, abusive behavior on my LJ, not because of anything he posted elsewhere.

I haven't done anything to prevent him from reading my posts. I don't even know how I could do that. My journal is completely open; I have never posted anything friends-locked. I have also never deleted anyone's comments, with the exception

Comments

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[wodcdre]

I always wondered why you put up with all his insidious accusations for so long. I personally didn't have any beefs with him, but the trolling that went on was quite rediculous. Anyway, It'll be good to (not) see anymore hostile posts from him on here. :-)

[anthonyjfuchs]

My, my, my, but he does seem to have quite the throbbing hate-boner for you.

I imagine that Martha Stout's book has a few suggestions concerning how to deal with someone of Fabio's...caliber.

[inverarity]

I don't think he's a sociopath. I do think he's mentally ill, which is why I am clenching my teeth and being as measured and judicious as I can be. When people lie about me I find it very, very hard not to respond.

[anthonyjfuchs]

The impulse to engage rarely listens to the rational understanding that engagement will yield no benefit. But I give you credit for setting your bar for response quite higher than mine. Hell: I usually find it very, very hard not to respond if someone just disagrees with me without at least a halfway decent reason.

You may be right that he's not a sociopath. But I wouldn't rule it out.

[ardys_the_ghoul]

I'm curious as to what he did/said that finally made you decide to ban him.

I've seen a few of his comments around, and I think I may even have had a slight altercation with him once--he struck me as abrasive, and hard-headed as far as differing opinions go (I don't mind when people disagree with my opinions, but I do mind when they act like I'm stupid for having said opinions), but not necessarily ban-worthy.

Then again, I don't make a point to read every comment and I'm sure I've missed most of this particular episode.

The banning

[inverarity]

It wasn't so much a single comment that went beyond the pale, but his behavior over a period of years. The thread that was the straw that broke the camel's back (and the banning) is here.

fpb is the sort of person who will walk into your living room, drop his pants and shit on your carpet, and then scream at you that it's your fault.

Re: The banning

[ardys_the_ghoul]

God, stuff like that gives me a headache. I don't blame you at all for getting sick of that insanity

Re: The banning

[inverarity]

Yes, he can be very reasonable, even pleasant, which is one reason I put up with him for so long. Unfortunately, he turns into a vicious beast without warning, and he does it with anyone. (I am but the latest in a long, long string of "friends" he abuses in this manner.)

He's now writing Jesus fan fiction about how I'm going to go to hell for ignoring him.

So, do I seriously suspect mental illness? Yes. OTOH, some people are just uncivilized assholes. The difference is academic since even if he does have a mental illness, there's no chance he'll ever seek help for it, or entertain the possibility that anything about his behavior is problematic.

[shinygobonkers]

i think that some people are just...unable to see the world from anything but their narrow perspective, unable to comprehend the idea that they are just *wrong* so they twist everything so that it reflects and agrees how they want to see things, so that they are always right, etc. best you can do is ignore their BS...
also, i agree, you've always been quite nice/measured/reasonable in your responses, even when his posts got quite out of hand...

[tealterror0]

Honestly, I actually had a fun time "arguing" with fpb, but I'm the kind that enjoys getting down in the mud with someone and slugging it out (er, rhetorically), even if it does leave me feeling vaguely dirty afterwards. I think the core problem with fpb isn't that he engages in insult-slinging contests--that's a venerable pastime, especially on the internet--but that he takes the entire thing way way way too seriously.

All that said, while I understand your temptation to write this post, I can't imagine it'll help. TBQH, the only people who care about the Inverarity/fpb feud are Inverarity and fpb, and nothing you do (nothing anyone could possibly do) will convince fpb he's wrong. If anything, this'll only encourage him. I imagine you know that already, but still, felt it had to be said.

[inverarity]

Yes, I know. Writing this post was clearly me succumbing to temptation, and I hate this kind of drama where two bloggers starting blogging at each other in a blogwar no one else cares about. I'm sure most of my flist would rather I stick to reviews and fan fic. Hopefully you can forgive me going off-course every once in a while.

That said, my objective was not to convince fpb he's wrong; there aren't words in this world to do that. As I said to anthonyjfuchs, while I can ignore people spouting nonsense and trolling, people telling bald-faced lies about me and claiming I have said and done things I have not isn't something I can let go as easily.

Also, when fpb rants about me, I usually see a few lurkers from his flist coming over here to see what he's talking about, so in this instance, I had to speak up and say, "Yes, I know he said that, and no, it's not true, and you can ask me about it if you want."

And yes, I realize that admitting this introduces the likelihood that he'll just keep making shit up about me to try to get me to respond. *sigh*

[anthonyjfuchs]

I have no room to talk about ignoring the Nitwit.

I went on for over eleven-hundred words, and he didn't even lie about me.

[ardys_the_ghoul]

he takes the entire thing way way way too seriously.

Along with an apparent inability to recognize sarcasm or exaggeration for the sake of humor (I find this incomprehensible--I have Asperger's, and even I can recognize sarcasm).