Territorial INTJs? (Aka "Don't touch my stuff!" *wham*)

[athenaltena]

Yes, another "are you like this" question. But since I'm stuck waiting for my oil to be changed and they have WiFi here I figured a little inquiry couldn't hurt. :3

Comments

[hversu]

I feel a lot like that concerning privacy/property. I get really weird about letting others use my laptop, or someone looking at what I'm doing on the internet, even though there's nothing particularly incriminating on my computer or in my internet activities.

Edit: I was also an only child.

[athenaltena]

I'm the same way about internet use or what's on my computer. I'm not (usually) hiding anything, but I get neurotic when people look over my shoulder at what I'm doing.

[katayla]

Yeah. I'm like that, too. It drives me crazy to have people looking my shoulder even though, really, it's never anything "bad."

[en_lightened]

I'm the same. I hate people looking at what I'm doing over my shoulder. I don't know how many times I've chewed out my mate for looking at what I'm doing online even though I'm not doing anything questionable.

[unkickablekitty]

I despise anyone touching/using/holding/whatever my stuff. I'm not sure why. Unless they ask first and/or it's something that I really don't care about (say, a receipt or a mediocre book), I sometimes freak out. "No, DON'T do my laundry! I said I'd do it tomorrow! AND you forgot to take the money out of my pockets!" Ugh.

Of course, I try to keep the items I care most about away from people so I avoid extreme situations.

Edit: I'm the youngest/second born, so although I always had these fights, my brother was always the more territorial person (if he's even holding a blank piece of paper and you touch it he'll freak *rolls eyes* - it's extreme).

[athenaltena]

"No, DON'T do my laundry! I said I'd do it tomorrow! AND you forgot to take the money out of my pockets!"

*giggles* That sounds like me. I'm usually pretty calm, but in situations like that I flip out a little bit.

[katayla]

I'm like that. One of my friends recently offered to come over and cook dinner for me, and I refused because I didn't want anyone else messing around in my kitchen.

And I'm not an only child.

[athenaltena]

That's the main thing with me, the idea of people messing around with an area that I have all organized. It seems like mild OCD about things like organization systems are fairly common traits for INTJs.

[healthnut22]

It makes sense, really. It's sort of part of the whole personality type description (of working with systems and wanting to improve them--someone else coming into that is not part of the deal! lol).

[morwen_peredhil]

If my husband really wants to get to me, he'll start moving canned goods around in the kitchen cupboards. I have things in order for a reason!

[en_lightened]

I'm very much like that. I hate when people go through my things. I no longer let my mate clean or pick up because he touches my things and moves them. Then it ends up being a huge argument even though he meant no harm

[en_lightened]

Oh, here's a funny story that relates to this. I had got a stuffed animal at the amusement park near my family a couple years ago. I visited my sisters house afterwards. She has a daughter (I'm not fond of kids and their germs. They are all contaminated to me). My niece wanted to play with my stuffed animal. You should have seen the look on my families faces and my mates face when I gripped it and said no. My mother, however, was not surprised.

[healthnut22]

I hate having my mother--or brother, both of whom clean up the public areas of our shared house--even go into my ROOM and put stuff politely on the bed/floor/dresser/whatever for me to deal with later. If my stuff was left out in the common space, first of all I feel insulted that they didn't believe I'd come and get it cleaned up in a timely manner, and second of all, there was generally a reason I hadn't already cleaned it up, since I generally hate leaving my stuff around where other people can get at/near/etc to it. Heh.

[unkickablekitty]

Exactly! Word-for-word this is my house. They just put it in my room, and I'm like... you invade my personal space for this? I'll deal with it later! And you ruined my organizing system (which is cluttered, naturally)!

[herwonderfulday]

I'm exactly the same way and I'm an only child.

In fact, I had the exact same oil change/car vacuuming experience. I was in college and needed an oil change, so I went to the Kwik Kar or whatever and when I found out they vacuumed my car my initial reaction was what?!. There wasn't anything in my car, it was still new-ish at the time and didn't even really need to be vacuumed so I wasn't worried about them finding anything incriminating or embarrassing. While I can appreciate that that's a service they provide, it felt intrusive.