A pretty darn candid post.

[innerbrat]

I just want to make something clear: the world isn't divided in to 'real' people and fakers. Take a second and remember you know this. Whether you're defining a woman by her body (“real woman have curves”) or a man by his behaviour (“real men drink bitter!”) or whatever in fact, you're wrong. All women are real women. Scientists are real people.

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[buongiornodaisy]

I can relate to the heart of this post so much it's not even funny. I might have more to say once I'm done making lunch, but, damn. This. All of it.

[buongiornodaisy]

hokay, here goes: I've never been told that my emotional pain has been attention whoring. I have been told, often, by my mother, that ~the world does not revolve around me, so I have come to link that hand in hand with everything that I do. Everything that I do, from writing fic to lashing out, emotionally, is because I am self-centered and want attention

[furikku]

In an unrelated post on another journal, the OP there and I came to the agreement that there's something messed up about acting like wanting (positive) attention is somehow bad. Like, who DOESN'T want attention and praise? There is nothing wrong with wanting that.

There are disordered ways to go after it, but the wanting underneath is nothing bad.

And if you want I will give you attention and hugs when you post things. I'm not always sure if that stuff is welcome in certain cases, so I usually keep mum unless it's obvious input is wanted.

[gwenhwyfaer]

Like, who DOESN'T want attention and praise?
*raises hand a bit... not very far though*

I tend to run away from any situation where I find myself in the focus. As far as my emotions are concerned, there's no such thing as good attention; even if it starts off positive, it will soon give rise to expectation and disappointment and I'll have to run away anyway... so I might as run now, before I'm attached. Perhaps this is because I'm autistic; perhaps it's a leftover from childhood... whatever. (Mind, it's been pointed out to me that I tend to do things which will attract attention, even though it's obvious that I don't want it - but I think that's definitely autism!)

So now I live in a city where nobody knows me and my closest friend is 70 miles away, and even posting anonymously to forums gets too risky, in terms of attracting attention. It's hard to find motivation to get anything done, and when there are kids making a row outside my window I get quite lonely, but for me it's still preferable to the alternative.

[mammadibiba]

Thank you for writing this. x

[anonymous]

Just commenting to say: I read. I appreciated. Thanks for writing.

[mercuriazs]

Uhhh, except that was me. Eljaaaaay.

Captcha: encountered throat

I feel like it's symbolic.

BUT OF WHAT.

[paiwingz]

um, since you wrote your tweet about being triggered yesterday i've been thinking about my own triggers, when they last happened, how they felt and wondering what would happen if I came to them again now.

Umm, I want to put something else here about attention seeking and how it isn't always a bad or wrong thing, and the hurting is still real, and about how you(i) slot into or develop certain fixed (disordered) ways of behaving to prove that there is something wrong, but I have a mental block not letting me thinkg about it now.
nevertheless, thank you for writing the post and making those points.

I'm not really sure what my point is here.

[rowanberries]

Holy crap, yes. Now with 100% more articulation!

Thank you.