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[blueahoge]

Earlier last month I was unfortunately forcibly outed as less than straight by my family who dug into my online life. Following my dad destroyed my computer. I'm living in a safe space with internet access, but since my mom got a hold of the documents that outed me, she's limited my computer access to school, writing, and drawing

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[notifurwatching]

Oh my god.

Your father actually destroyed your computer and your mother limited you just because you aren't straight?

That is the one of most awful, horrible, homophobic things I've ever heard in my entire life. I'm sorry, but that is an unforgivable thing for a parent to do to their child. Your family are absolute cunts and deserve to be shot for doing something like that to you just because you aren't heterosexual.
You poor thing, I wanna bring you out here, curl you up in a blanket and give you cupcakes. Seriously, that's absolutely unforgivable for them to do.

You could not have more of my sympathies, darling, I'm so sad to see you go, especially because of this. But I'll be hoping and wishing for the best for you, and that you can get away from such vile human beings that would do that and be among people that love and respect you for who you are. Have the biggest hugs possible, dear.

[blueahoge]

-hugs-

Yeah. My mom's less bad about it, and at least isn't trying to change me, but it's more because I'm genderqueer that gets them, and just...growing up in a southern baptist home has its drawbacks. Hopefully I can get things worked out with my therapist with my dad and everything, but there's been a history of physical/emotional abuse with him and I've [i]just[/i] reported him to child services, less for him threatening me and more for him throwing a $400 laptop across my room and smashing it beyond repair.

And yeah. The forcibly being outed? Now [i]he[/i] wants to tell me what to do with [i]my[/i] body. The whole thing's a hot homophobic mess.

[notifurwatching]

You poor, poor baby, oh my god...

*ALL OF THE HUGS*

Yes, I would definitely recommend getting in contact with child services, a social worker, or someone else like that who could put you in a much better environment. No one deserves to be put through that, especially by their own family. God, that's just plain sick. Seriously, this makes me so angry and upset I could spit.

You do whatever it takes to make things better for yourself, hon. They do NOT have to the right to tell you who you are or what you should be, remember that, even if you have to go somewhere far away from them.

[blackshadowsins]

Oh man. If I could whisk you away from that I could. No one deserves to deal with homophobic outbursts, particularly like that.

If you EVER want to talk, I'm willing to be an ear. I'd have more to say but I'm no good with words and auugh, Tora already nailed everything anyway. We're here for you, though.

[blueahoge]

Thanks. It's appreciated. :)

[blackshadowsins]

And noting the genderqueer statement above, I'm gonna go ahead and say I've got personal experience there, so if you ever wanna talk about that, I'm also open.

I'd also have a few choice words for your parents if ever given the chance...

/hugs

[nothitchhiking]

My god, that really hurt to read. As growing up in a community that didn't encourage non-hetero lifestyles, I can feel your pain. But still, it really hurts to see something like that happening to one of us.

I wish I could do something, but here, lemme offer some hugs instead. /hugs

[blueahoge]

-hugs-

[nothitchhiking]

Yeah, I'm terrible at giving advice for these things, but I just hate seeing someone get socially pressured just because they're 'different'. I went through it and it wasn't pretty.

Don't let them get to you and yeah, repeating what everyone said, we're here for you.

[tyrannical_test]

/hugs

I'm so, so sorry that they did that to you. I wish I could help somehow, but this sounds like a really intense situation for them to lash out so badly. I don't know what good we can do as ~"strangers from the internet"~ in changing their minds. I really hope things get better for you and your family, and I hope that they'll respect and love you no matter what. You deserve that.

I hope we'll see you back again soon, you'll always be welcome! Good luck, Alice! We'll miss you, and you're going to be in my prayers.

[blueahoge]

Yeah. the ~strangers from the internet~ telling me about their ~deviant lifestyles~ is apparently something terrible.
-hugs-

[tyrannical_test]

Seriously, I don't understand that logic.

And heck, I ain't deviant, I'm a straight Christian girl. And I still think that what he did was absolutely wrong and insane. I read the thread up there, and I'm glad that you're getting child services involved, that's really the best choice.

/hugs, again

I hope things get better for you soon!

[friendshipisme]

> I ain't deviant, I'm a straight Christian girl.

Kinda just contradicted yourself there, Gena. :V

(Sue me, I'm trying to inject some humor into a horrible situation. Make it easier.)

[itssnacktime]

That's AWFUL.

I can't even begin to imagine how someone can even be so angry to actually DESTROY your computer. That's just crazy.

I guess that's better than the brunt of that anger being directed at you. Still, I can't imagine a family member overreacting like that in the least because you aren't or completely straight. I don't get it...should it matter? They should be accepting of it. I couldn't care less if it was family or friends...no one should snoop through someone's computer like that and then OUT them just like that, especially without at least talking to you first. It just sounded like something that should have been discussed...hell maybe even not discussed since it's YOUR choice. I mean, geeze. It sounds like they're pretty homophobic. Can that really be worse than being on drugs or killing someone?

Man, I'm just....so sorry you have to go through that.

[blueahoge]

Nope. Of course he's the kind of person that believes it was his right to do all that, and he's a very angry man. And yes, they're homophobic/southern baptist, so my faith's getting dragged into this too.

-Hugs-