To me, there's a line between being caring, and just being annoying, you know? Like, if I'm having trouble and my friend tells me I'm in her thoughts and prayers, I think it's very nice and caring and it makes me happy knowing I'm that important.
Then there's others who say you should have more faith in God and that if you believe God will come to you and help you then "he" will. That's when I start to get uncomfortable. Yes, I'm fine with them having a belief, but telling me to join it just makes me feel a little awkward, you know?
Anyway, those are my views. Coming from someone who's...spiritual...but not religious? If that makes any sense. I do believe in positive energies, but...I'm not so hardcore about it. I don't know. >< I probably make no sense.
Yeah, I definitely think it's rude to insist someone should join your religion. But this was more like, this person found just the *idea* of someone praying for her offensive. I couldn't get my head around that.
The way I see it is, if someone says they'll pray for me I think it's sweet. If they tell me to pray for them - without knowing whether I pray or not - then that's rude and pushy.
I don't know. I think my friend was being irrational, but I wanted others' responses to weigh hers against, KWIM? I'm a poor judge of whether I'm the one at fault sometimes :p
Yeah, I totally get what you're saying, and agree with you completely. If they want to pray for me, it's not offensive, it just means that I'm in their thoughts and they care enough to ask their own god to help me. It makes me feel special. :3
Your friend is being kind of irrational. :C Sorry bb.
Sorry for butting in when we aren't really lj-bffs, haha, but I read all your entries because, well, they're on my friends' page. :D
I can appreciate sympathy as a gesture, totally, but being raised as an atheist it's a little uncomfortable hearing that someone'll pray for me or my loved ones. It's as if they're offering to do something entirely non-beneficial and presenting it as if it has some bearing on the situation at hand. Like if you were on a hockey team and someone's knitting on the sidelines and says afterward they did all they could to help win the game. Or if you said, "My sister has the flu" and your neighbor's like, "I'm sorry. I'll mow my grass extra neat this weekend." Y'know? It doesn't offend me in the way of belief; it's just awkward. Then again I don't really have a religious context from which to appreciate these sorts of things. :\
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Like, if I'm having trouble and my friend tells me I'm in her thoughts and prayers, I think it's very nice and caring and it makes me happy knowing I'm that important.
Then there's others who say you should have more faith in God and that if you believe God will come to you and help you then "he" will.
That's when I start to get uncomfortable.
Yes, I'm fine with them having a belief, but telling me to join it just makes me feel a little awkward, you know?
Anyway, those are my views.
Coming from someone who's...spiritual...but not religious?
If that makes any sense.
I do believe in positive energies, but...I'm not so hardcore about it.
I don't know. ><
I probably make no sense.
But hey, I read your journal!
:D <3
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The way I see it is, if someone says they'll pray for me I think it's sweet. If they tell me to pray for them - without knowing whether I pray or not - then that's rude and pushy.
I don't know. I think my friend was being irrational, but I wanted others' responses to weigh hers against, KWIM? I'm a poor judge of whether I'm the one at fault sometimes :p
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If they want to pray for me, it's not offensive, it just means that I'm in their thoughts and they care enough to ask their own god to help me.
It makes me feel special. :3
Your friend is being kind of irrational.
:C Sorry bb.
But I agree with you completely about this.
^_^
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- say they'll pray for me
- say god bless you
- wish me merry christmas instead of happy holidays
- hold a door open for me
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I can appreciate sympathy as a gesture, totally, but being raised as an atheist it's a little uncomfortable hearing that someone'll pray for me or my loved ones. It's as if they're offering to do something entirely non-beneficial and presenting it as if it has some bearing on the situation at hand. Like if you were on a hockey team and someone's knitting on the sidelines and says afterward they did all they could to help win the game. Or if you said, "My sister has the flu" and your neighbor's like, "I'm sorry. I'll mow my grass extra neat this weekend." Y'know? It doesn't offend me in the way of belief; it's just awkward. Then again I don't really have a religious context from which to appreciate these sorts of things. :\
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