A Particularly Negative Update

[illusiongrl]

 Been pretty quiet lately because I've been struggling with being unpleasant. There are so many people I know (especially on Facebook) who have this wonderfully positive facade like all the time, and it's so hard to counter "the universe is full of warm, pink supportive light" with "fuck it" and not feel like you're a negative ass.

Comments

[onyxtwilight]

Aw, honey, we love your negative ass. >:-)

And, *hug*.

And the painter guy sounds like a small claims suit waiting to happen. Or, y'know, something involving a black candle, red string, and peppercorns. Whichever is less trouble. ;-)

[lapiswitch]

First the problem solver in me wants to tell you that there is such a thing as a lein that you can use with contractors. Call your local government offices and find out what you can do in your area. See if you can employ the neighbor and ask, "Hey, do you know what is going on with your Dad? I am really worried about him because he hasn't been able to finish the job. Is he okay? He hasn't gotten hurt or anything has he?" in your sweetest, most worried mom voice you can manage to conjure up.

Second, it's okay to be angry. It's okay to yell and shout and be generally pissed off. Women spend so much time avoiding being angry and pretending that they don't get angry. Anger is a natural and healthy emotion. Be angry! Be pissed! Tell 'em to fuck off! Get to know your anger and how to express it and deal with it in a healthy way.

[ranger_hotsauce]

When people are being hopelessly positive online, remember that they are using tools like Facebook to feel popular and liked, and they figure people will only be entertained by sweetness and light.

Just a thought.

[paradigmslost]

*Hugs*

Is there any way you can stop that painter's third check? Can you leave a polite but candid note in his mail slot? Or tell him to get moving or you talk to your lawyer? Does he have a boss you can complain to, or is he just freelance?

Thank you so much, by the way, for your reassurance during my recent stress -- you were right.

[ladyravenfyr]

I have found when I opened my heart's door (the one labeled vulnerable)I had to accept that all of the emotions in the room would have an opportunity to come walking through. So to have the ones we like such as joy, empathy, compassion, passion, excitment and love, we have to also welcome their shadows, sadness, anger, antipathy, frustration, fear, and hate. And if we try to pick and choose (as we have been taught) then we only end up confused and fragmented and end up slamming the door again.

The only choice, if we are to live a life of fullness, is how we behave through the various emotions with our words and actions. Being angry does not mean we do harm. We can be angry and spew all over the place and there is no harm done. Then after, we can choose how to proceed.

*holding space for your steam vent*
Pele is a beautiful goddess!