All so true. It's the warm and fuzzy before and after the bath-house and the bedroom and the bushes and the river-bank and the kitchen that keeps us typing.
As well as the laughter and the tears- and don't we just know how to dish out the latter.....
But we are also such suckers for happy endings that I think it finally balances out
Oh, I remember being asked, like... let me think... five years ago, which stories I like most, get or slash. I said that if the story is well-written, with the core, with style and so on, and not just about sex (anatomy books and sex manuals are for those, really, aren't they?), I like them. And the person that was asking got a bit surprised. Asked me again what's it all about. I said, emotion, the why, the before and the after. :)
I have to say, my slash spot (which I guess is in my heart or wherever oxytocin is produced) and my g-spot are pretty closely linked. Something that hits one often hits the other as well, including writing and reading the sex. For me, I think the point is that sex usually has to have emotional significance to be included.
That's fascinating... my spots are almost entirely separate... but I agree about the emotional significance. The sex has to be very much needed or wanted or enjoyed or indeed all of the above, and it has to move the relationship on in some way, or there's no point including it.
Other slash writers have told me they don't find what they write hot themselves - but it makes me wonder how you know whether what you've written is hot or not, if you don't feel it in your loins, as it were, as well as your heart? I mean, clearly you do know, because it is, but how? Just shows how different we all are! I can be walking down the street or sitting at my desk at work, and sometimes I only have to think about Spike blowing Riley in the shower, or Kai saying - "You want me ..." to Arthur, and I'm not much good for anything for a while ...
I have no idea how I know, in fact it surprises me that others find what I write is hot... but anyway I'm glad you find it so. The hotness must be a byproduct of the emotional tension, or something, and I can't feel it although the emotions often move me to tears when writing and reading. Other people's stories have a much bigger effect. I guess it's partly like the way you can't tickle yourself - someone else has to do it. But it's not only that. Slash hits me very hard and very gratifyingly but not in the same place that sex or sexual fantasies do. Just occasionally very, very good sex can hit the same kind of emotional high, the icing on the cake as it were, but otherwise for me the two things are separate, albeit equally good in their own ways! I wonder what on earth is going on physiologically that could explain it?
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As well as the laughter and the tears- and don't we just know how to dish out the latter.....
But we are also such suckers for happy endings that I think it finally balances out
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For me, I think the point is that sex usually has to have emotional significance to be included.
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I mean, clearly you do know, because it is, but how?
Just shows how different we all are!
I can be walking down the street or sitting at my desk at work, and sometimes I only have to think about Spike blowing Riley in the shower, or Kai saying - "You want me ..." to Arthur, and I'm not much good for anything for a while ...
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I guess it's partly like the way you can't tickle yourself - someone else has to do it.
But it's not only that. Slash hits me very hard and very gratifyingly but not in the same place that sex or sexual fantasies do. Just occasionally very, very good sex can hit the same kind of emotional high, the icing on the cake as it were, but otherwise for me the two things are separate, albeit equally good in their own ways!
I wonder what on earth is going on physiologically that could explain it?
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