Unfriending and life

[icubud]

A wonderful LJF made a post yesterday commenting about their need to reassess their LJ's purpose. I think about that quite a bit. I too have noticed some LJFs rarely comment though they are active on their LJ. I figure either they are not reading mine, are reading but having nothing to "say" or they are avoiding "unfriending" for fear of drama. I'

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[almsthvn]

I can't speak for others, but I find I just forget to login over here. Between Facebook and MyFitnessPal for status updates and blogs, there's usually not much left to say over here except for whining about my out-laws, and I do not participate in political threads. I do pop over here once in awhile (thanks for the nudges!) and I do still care about my LJ pals.

Hi!

[icubud]

I understand. Thanks for commenting

[lemmy59]

I hope to stick around, and that you stick around on mine. I really enjoy our "conversations" :)

[icubud]

Ditto!

[tallblue]

I am very grateful for your friendship. You are one of the few that comment.

I feel the same way, as you know. I think it can open a path to more friends in the future.

I was just talking about you to Rich about how I trust you, David and Lemmy because you guys are good people that treat me with respect. I was talking with him about men being on my friends list and what I thought about them. And what I respected about them.

[icubud]

I appreciate your friendship as well.
On my LJ of the ones who are actually "close" 90% are female. I have tried to find sincere, mature males to balance out the mix but they usually end up either being gay, pigs, or super-nerds.
Maybe someday we will all meet up for coffee or drinks :O)

[icubud]

No apologies! Geesh! See today's post.
Your life is A WHOLE LOT different than 3 years ago, heck even two years ago. I agree it is pretty much all been good. And I am SOOO happy for you.
I have absolutely no intention of unfriending you. GADS!!
BIG HUGS!!!

[madisonsmommy22]

I have the same problem with supposed friends of ours. Seems like except for a select few, they just never return calls or e-mails. Maybe that's a sign they're not as good friends as we thought they were!

I'm never on here that much, seeing as my husband and you are the only people I follow on here, so not much is ever going on.

But I am constantly on Facebook, you should join! :)

[icubud]

It seems to me that most people are narcissists and shallow.
So again - why bother?

I look back over my life and easily 75% of the "friends" in my life were only friends if I put the energy to drive the relationship. If I reached out to make plans... If I drove.... If I treated.... If I cooked.... If I.....
That is not a friendship, that is bribery.
Heck with it.
There has to be people left in our country that are genuine, compassionate, friendly....
Unfortunately I just can't find them in Cincinnati...

(sigh)
Heaven will be so much better...