Comments | icarust: the meaning of friendship

icarust

the meaning of friendship

Feb 08, 2009 21:26

That irritating song "Thank You For Being A Friend" came on the radio the other day (you know the song, the opening theme to that God-awful show "The Golden Girls") - and despite the fact that it's incredibly fluffy and non-sensical, it did get me thinking.

"Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down that road and back again
Your heart is true: ( Read more... )

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nushi_akubi February 9 2009, 03:57:08 UTC

I'm glad I know where I fit in all that. ;) Either that or I think too highly of myself.

Seeing the inner workings of your brain in analyzing mode is very insightful. I agree with the whole 'definition of friend'. Mine isn't much like the dictionary either. I just decide that people are 'mine', for lack of a better way of describing it and the closest way of describing that feeling is a friend.

You're mine and I have a real interest in how you feel, and what I can do for you at all times. <3 'Always be there for you.

icarust February 9 2009, 04:01:31 UTC

I think you've got it down actually, the "mine" business. People may say that's "possessive" maybe, but it's how you set that particular person apart from all the others one encounters daily, that they're special in your life.

nushi_akubi February 9 2009, 04:04:49 UTC

Yep, it is possessive. I refuse to be ashamed though. It is something to set people apart, the whole Them vs. Us mentality maybe.

fallingstr12204 February 9 2009, 04:36:40 UTC

Well you know I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with being picky over who you start a friendship with. You have to know that you can trust people... PERSONALLY if any of my friends ever stabbed me in the back over some 'all is fair in love and war' mess I'd be... um not friends?

But any who, this is pretty insightful. My mother always said, "Candice, you can count the number of TRUE friends you have on one hand... if you're lucky." I have found that to be SO true over the years. You always find out who is real when it comes down to a tight spot. ^_^

icarust February 9 2009, 15:46:15 UTC

My mother always said, "Candice, you can count the number of TRUE friends you have on one hand... if you're lucky."

Yeah. Quality vs Quantity.

My problem is what "the quality standard" is in this particular friendship lol. What I want is probably not what he wants. I'm sure being friends to him means something different. Not wrong, but different.

fallingstr12204 February 9 2009, 21:03:35 UTC

Ah. Well I've had similar issues with some of my 'friends.' Which I don't think its WRONG for them to consider that we have a friendship... that doesn't mean I don't. If for example someone asks after what kind of relationship we have I would tell them, in the instance of THESE particular 'friends,' that we are more like friendly acquaintances ( ... )

icarust February 10 2009, 02:29:49 UTC

You're not rambling. I guess it's just a wait and see thing. Probably more waiting than seeing. The adjustment is the fact that before when I was with the guy we were more than friends, and then now we have to act practically less than friends in order to avoid any misunderstandings and soap opera drama and all that unpleasantness.

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icarust February 9 2009, 15:26:09 UTC

Yes. I am one of those guilty people on your flist! It's funny b/c I read every one of your entries. Problem is that I read them at work, and have a hard time typing my replies/comments fast so that no one sees that I'm not actually doing work o__o (like now ( ... )

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icarust February 10 2009, 16:12:44 UTC

Agreed. :)

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icarust February 11 2009, 14:31:21 UTC

^___^ that made my day <3