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[ibaranonamida]

Do you start friendships with the idea that you'll drift apart

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[kazekijo]

One thing I have found as a result of moving is that friends are people you may see down the road one day and make awkward conversation with before moving on. Real friends are people who, when you see down the road, no matter how long it has been, you fall into a fun, engaging, and meaningful conversation with right off the bat. It's like you have never been separated at all. Sometimes we get seperated from people, and that sucks. It is a part of life though. However, we are far better off than our parents. My aunt commented to me once that it is so wonderful that people our age have the internet because it would be near impossible to keep the contacts and friends I have today without it. People may come and go, but the special ones are always with us (this is a bit random, but I am really tired right now ^_^;).

[ibaranonamida]

I think I'm a relatively open person and I kind of force myself onto other people. So I form meaningful friendships with a lot of people, and then feel hurt when they leave and they are able to 'drop' the friendship with the understanding that it was important at the time, and I'm wondering how you could forget someone like that.

I guess I just assume that everyone hold friendship in the same regard that I do.

Thanks for commenting, it helps me to formulate my own thoughts better.

[sapporonoodles]

so i rarely stop by lj anymore (ok, lie, i rarely read my flist anymore, i'm just usually only on ohnotheydidnt), so that's probably contributed to us not really talking anymore, but whenever i do stop by i always make sure to catch up on what's going on with you :) because i totes miss talking to you and for some odd reason always think about this one time you called me when i was in a fitting room and i stayed in there for like, 40 minutes just talking to you. anyway! i just wanted to say hi.

[ibaranonamida]

Delaney! It's been so long!

I know what you mean about not really doing anything on LJ. I comment on friends' posts somewhat regularly, but the fact that I've written about four posts in three weeks is a fricking accomplishment.

I remember that conversation! I also remember calling you when you were roadtripping somewhere and you were in the middle of nowhere and you passed a fire or something?

I hope you're doing well! What are you up to?

[robinwyn]

I agree that a real friend is someone who you can re-connect with on the same level as before, no matter how long it's been since the last time you spent time with them. I always try to keep in touch with my friends, or people I feel are worthy of being my friends. But when things start getting a bit one-sided (meaning I am the one that always contacts them), I start questioning that friendship- sometimes I bring it up with them, sometimes I just keep quiet and let things play out. Sometimes I give up trying to keep contact and wait for them to contact me, other times I just give up all together

[ibaranonamida]

I love you too and I appreciate the time you take to message me and post meaningful comments.

I should say that this wasn't prompted by anyone or directed at anyone. This was a conversation that I had that means a lot to me. I have never entered a meaningful relationship with the idea that we would end it at some point.

I do understand the idea of connecting no matter how long it has been, and that is something it took time for me to really comprehend.

But I always hope to keep in touch with you, my friend. It boggles my mind that people can just end friendships and no longer what happens to a person who at one time meant the world to them.

[andiecircus]

I think people change and your values do as well. With that said, I think the friends you make in college have a greater chance of lasting than someone you became friends with in high school.

I do agree with your co-worker. I think that God gives us some friends for different parts of our lives.

[ibaranonamida]

I understood what he meant, but it literally hurts me to think that I can only have a friend for a certain time.

The idea of growing apart just kills me.

[andiecircus]

I think that's part of growing up: getting accustomed to the idea of growing apart and changing.

We leave our parents too.