I don’t know him like you do but the fact that he’s going through/choosing to upend his life from there to another place might explain his decisions passing information along sporadically/out of order like most would choose or like.
As for sticking with it or not…
That’s never an easy thing. You may have chosen to be there initially cause he asked but you have had a good time based on what I’ve read previously, despite the fact that it hasn’t been easy and took a toll on your time. That alone tells me that either you need to be all in on staying or all out. Half-assing it won’t make you happy…but only you can know if you’re willing to stay all in.
Jus my two bits based on the very little I know and my intuitions suggestion…
I certainly appreciate your two bits. I just don't want to make any rash decisions. This was kind of the crux of the situation with Carnegie Hall--I'm not someone who can up and decide things. I need to contemplate. I can't even go to a restaurant without major deliberations on the food. I like knowing where we're going ahead of time so I can plan and narrow it down to 2-3 choices and then I can pick something based on how I'm feeling that day, though I've gotten better about that
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Then that just means you need to keep giving it your all till you come to your conclusion. Nothing wrong with that at all. Of course being mentally and emotionally exhausted because of the turmoil you're going through isn't going to make it easy...not that I'm suggesting that you give it up. Like you've said...you've met lots of amazing people and it's let you continue doing something you love to do.
You may find with his diminished presence it will be easier to actually enjoy both bands for what they are rather than linking it with his presence.
Honestly? Because of my ability to compartmentalize, I don't have a problem with his presence, especially three years in. It was more awkward for me early on, but then we got into a routine and that hasn't been an issue for the most part.
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As for sticking with it or not…
That’s never an easy thing. You may have chosen to be there initially cause he asked but you have had a good time based on what I’ve read previously, despite the fact that it hasn’t been easy and took a toll on your time. That alone tells me that either you need to be all in on staying or all out. Half-assing it won’t make you happy…but only you can know if you’re willing to stay all in.
Jus my two bits based on the very little I know and my intuitions suggestion…
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Then that just means you need to keep giving it your all till you come to your conclusion. Nothing wrong with that at all. Of course being mentally and emotionally exhausted because of the turmoil you're going through isn't going to make it easy...not that I'm suggesting that you give it up. Like you've said...you've met lots of amazing people and it's let you continue doing something you love to do.
You may find with his diminished presence it will be easier to actually enjoy both bands for what they are rather than linking it with his presence.
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