Oct 04, 2006 09:08
I've seen a few people post about bear stuff in the last month or so and thought I'd pull this poll together. It's mainly for the guys but women familiar with bear stuff can feel free to answer the optinion questions.
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The "bear community" has definitely become everything that it was created to counter. It's very exclusive and opinionated and often looks down on others the way people looked down on bears. I guess I (and a lot of people) sort of use what the bear community has to see and meet friends while trying to stay as much outside it as possible. (After being berates for liking non-bears, I lost all interest in bear groups and the "community".) I know a lot of people use stuff like Bear411 for sex and I'll admit I have a slightly revealing pic there (in my underwear) and will flirt too but I've never hooked up with someone from there and really just use it to chat with friends and meet people. (I'm a big flirt anywhere, so why not there to? ;) )
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I guess I wish there was an overarching word (I'd be fine with it being bear) and then the term for the bigger guys along with wolfe, otter, cub, etc... If bear is the term for bigger guys than we need a new overarching word (much like gay used to be but had that function replaced by the word queer) under wich bear falls along side cub, otter, wolfe. But Furry is already taken (and it means something totally different) so I don't know what to suggest.
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Yeah, the bear movement was sort of created as a support thing for guys who weren't the "ideal" of what gays were supposed to like. It's moved too far away from that though and can often be it's own form of elitist environment. Now bears can have their own "ideal" to judge people against. I've heard that many chasers feel uncomfortable because they don't fit the bear mold and many bears can become even more image self-conscious.
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I still tend to think that cuddly demeanor, love of comfort and acceptance of others are better indicators of bearishness than beard, belly and body hair. If someone picks at their food, doesn't like to hug anyone and has rigid definitions of "Bear", then I'm less likely to believe that they are one. (Slight irony in that sentence is recognized.)
As a shorthand for physical type, bear, cub, otter, grizzly, behr and polar bear are useful (note the lower case). "Wolf" always seems to have a personality ( ... )
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