This is why you don't take christian sex advice.

[hungry_worm]

Via indelicateink: Christian Sex Advice: Think of Your Spouse as a Filthy Toilet... (Slog).
Original link here.

Fortunately, daegaer makes it all better. (WK; Crawford/Schuldig) :D

Now put on those sexy rubber gloves and give that sweet porcelaine a sponge down. Mmhhh. Yeah Baby. (Oh I forgot, scrap the emotional nonsense. :P)

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[sevenup_renomee]

From the original: "understand that there is no need for all this desire and emotion nonsense." Okay. Seriously? There IS a need for this 'desire and emotion nonsense,' because if I don't have the desire to have sex with my SO (for which there is generally a GOOD DAMNED REASON), then I shouldn't be having sex with my SO.

The fact of the matter is that if you don't feel desire in any way, or an emotional involvement in any way (and lust is an emotion), then the sex is going to be unfulfilling. It's going to be bad. And enough bad sex will ruin a relationship just as quickly as(if not more quickly than!) no sex at all.

To hell with that idiot dispensing "advice."

[hungry_worm]

Isn't it outrageous?! You're exactly right about the bad sex under lack of emotional involvement. If someone, and that can be a female or male, doesn't want any of the "desire and emotion" nonsense they should rather go to a professional (but of course that costs money) or not involve in a relationship at all.

Isn't the difference between an "accquaintance with benefits" or one night stand and a relationship (in the conventional sense) or marriage the emotional bond? I guess horniness can be separate from emotions such as "love", but even when you feel passion or desire, you're emotionally moved in some way or the other...

Of course in my marriage I'm the one who always jokingly says that I'm going to assert my marriage rights. (Because I am, but he consents. ;) Hunting is fun

[sevenup_renomee]

Probably he has low testosterone. Either that or he's never had good sex.

Bad sex is just depressing. It's WORSE than no sex, because you get yourself all riled up for the sex, and then.... ugh. It irritates me just thinking about it.

I can sort of see, in a very distant way, what he was trying to get at; sometimes you're not in the mood, and in order to maintain your bond with your partner, you just have sex.

But here's the thing: there are a million and one ways to bond with your partner that don't involve bad sex. Hell, let's be vulgar for a second: if I'm not in the mood for sex (rare, but it happens), and my partner needs some physical lovin', I'd much rather get their rocks off for them manually or (*puritanical gasp!*) orally. I'd rather not wait ages and ages for them to try and get me off. It just gets annoying after a while, and then I have to MAKE myself orgasm, and really?

Anyway. Bad advice from that guy. His life sucks. I'm glad I'm not him.