Dating 101

[howtodateababe]

Unfortunately, I underestimated the time maintaining this journal would take. I get an awful lot of emails from people and though I’ve enjoyed the experience thus far, other things in my life require a lot of time and energy from the at the moment, such as: running my own business and working with my publisher and agent to get my book ready for

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[writerwench]

~~~ stands and applauds excellent advice. Especially the bit about CALLING after the date.

[howtodateababe]

Oh man... this one guy...

Not only didn't call me, but refused to return mine. Six months later I run into him again and he tells me he still loves me and wishes we'd kept dating.

I just sighed.

[izuko]

It's a shame, I rather liked this journal. Maybe you can cut back a bit and authorize other (pre-qualified) women to help out? I can tell you that it's great for us guys to be able to get a glimpse at how women think... er feel. *ducks*

I seem to have the biggest problem with intimidation. I can't tell you how many women assumed I'm a big, hairy ogre (how many ogres wear glasses? What, am I the geeky ogre? With the overclocked club?) because I tend to be very straight forward. I've had one tell me that, when we first met, she thought I was a bit scary. Alas, she met someone before I could change that impression (I swear, "all the good ones are taken isn't just a saying, it's a damn Law of the Universe (TM)).

Either that, or they're afraid they can't live up to my expectations - that she thought I needed a higher-class woman. My stars, woman... I'm a white-trash redneck! What on earth would I do with a high-class woman?

[howtodateababe]

No no, they're all taken or GAY.

However, that saying automatically insults whoever is saying it.

[writerwench]

Okay, so you're big, you're hairy, you wear glasses, you're very straightforward, you're a geek? I guess you're also very articulate and intelligent. Perhaps not so hot on the 'approachable, laid-back, easy company' side

[howtodateababe]

Your books on the subject were probably written by guys.

Most of my girlfriends agree WITHIN two days, not AFTER two days. There is even a good female friend of mine saying so at the top of the comments.

Dutch is when you pay 50/50 or for your own meals.

Now, the most important thing is that you've missed the first date rule completely. It's a risk free trial period. You have no obligation. Thus, you are not 'using' anyone, because you're going on a date with them, being nice and getting to know them. That's all your first date obligations met.

[writerwench]

'You have to make them miss you to want you

[firewolfsquake]

" It’s always prudent to bring enough money to cover you and your date, even if you expect to go Dutch. I’m a woman and I do it because I don’t want to get arrested if my date turns out to be cheap. All guys should do it, just in case the woman you are with expects you to pay."

I grew up expecting to pay for the dates so its hard for me to go on a date without money with me. But it is good advise because i know girls that completely refuse to have thier dinner paid for.

I'll miss reading this journal. It helps not only single people but also people in a relationship that don't know what to do or where to go in it.

Robin.

[frankie_25]

C'est la vie. I second the idea of getting one of your friends to help?

[howtodateababe]

I love your icon.

I've asked some of my friends. Most of them don't seem to feel qualified.

[writerwench]

Hey, did I miss something here? Happy to help! Mind you, my experience of dating and relationships is somewhat Aspergers-oriented, but if I can relate, I'll do so.

[frankie_25]

Yeah, it gave me a chuckle, I hope one of them "steps up". What I've seen was very interesting. ;)