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[holly_go_noor]

Filtering my flist. Nothing personal against anyone.

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[brownkitty]

Hopefully this is a good thing.

[holly_go_noor]

They didn't do anything, but they are associated with people that did...The mods at a certain community got REALLY nasty with me. :-/ So it's not so much that I'm mad at anybody I took off as it is that they are friends with the mods and I don't want to subject myself to associating with them, no matter how proxy the association is.

[steveshot]

:/ That community sucks then. Sorry to read this. :(

It's okay that you do filtering, I understand.

Been reading about a lot of stuff that has been going on... not quite sure what to say, but you're going forward with your life. Right on! I'm rooting for you!

[holly_go_noor]

Yeah, they DO suck. I mean they have like zero ethics, and it's supposed to be a SUPPORT community. But I look at it like this: there are "survivors" that can't ever let go of the past, and there are SURVIVORS that recover and move on. That group is one that wants to sit and whine and be victims rather than get on with their lives. And I'm a bitch for not being a doormat anymore. :-/ I think the part that really pissed me off was that I trusted them with personal information and they twisted it and used it against me - and they all claim to be COUNSELORS. If they are counselors, then the counseling profession is in trouble. Plus a lot of the things they claimed that were true and laws and whatnot are not on the books and they really should check up on those things, but that's another story. UGH.

And yes, I am doing well! :-) Thank you. How are you?

[steveshot]

That's just terrible, and I cannot believe that they would do that. I would be ashamed of myself if I did that to someone and that's just... frustrating as all can be. I can only imagine how you feel. *hugs* I know I would be furious.

I'm doing okay... lots to write about but too little time. I'm blaming Twitter, of course, but working to improve my journal and clean it up... I've been on here awhile, you know! Just... not that much posting lately. Thanks for asking!

[holly_go_noor]

I was pretty furious BUT I realize that most of those women probably suffering from borderline personalities. I mean if you're that sick. then you should know enough to be able to step back from it, but hey not everybody is that aware or evolved. And theoretically you'd realize that you should probably re-examine a situation if another person is saying "Hey maybe I did something I shouldn't have", and your response isn't "yeah well people do/say things, we probably did too" and is instead "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT YOU ARE A TERRIBLE SELFISH PERSON!" when THAT PERSON is the one that um, tried to open lines of communication

[dreamalwz]

I do have a question. I would still like to remain friends with you if that is ok with you. I really don't associate with them outside of my own posts. If just the fact that I am in said community is association enough to upset(not the word I was looking for) you then I understand. They can be crappy sometimes and judgemental, I have realized this myself so you are not alone in that view. I'm sorry they have done that to you! You are right, it is supposed to be a SUPPORT group and if they disagree with something they can present constructive criticism in a polite manner, but I have a feeling this never happened.

[holly_go_noor]

Oh man. Thanks for that. And of course. I just felt like a lot of people were taking their side (and even the ones that didn't wouldn't speak up). And they were just so NASTY to me! I didn't know who was in your flist and who wasn't. It's not a matter of putting an ultimatum out (though I'm sure it looks that way). I felt like I could issue an ultimatum which is NOT something I would do, or just quietly defriend. :-/

And thanks. You made me feel a ton better!