I want to tell you guys a story...

[hodateelmundo]

It's a story about a shy, sweet, innocent, reserved guy. He lives in a small town in Ohio. He's in the eighth grade and he likes a girl, let's call her Cary, he has known and been talking to all year in their math class. He knows she likes him as well because their mutual friend, let's call her Emily, has told him she does. They are in a ski

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[lordcoon]

Dude, it was in 8th grade. 4 years ago. You seriously need to move on. Not just for your sake, but for hers. You're obviously still going over these events in your head (proof enough from this post), but why let it fuck with you? By dwelling on this, all you're doing is living in the past, a past where everyone is extremely immature and confused. Of course bad things are going to happen.

And about her. I've heard of the over-protective ex, but this is something totally different. It seems almost like you're trying to be a big brother or parent to her. Maybe you should just let her out from under your wing and let her make her own mistakes without having to fear that she has to answer back to you. That's how we learn from things: by making mistakes. As long as you rob her of that, she's going to remain a sheltered little child.

[hodateelmundo]

That's why I made this post. I am letting it all out, I have decided that I do need to move away from that life forever. I even let her know, about 2 years ago, that from then on she would have to make her own mistakes, but thank you for confirming what I though I had to do in my mind. The main point of this story were the last four sentences anyway. I only used Cary as an example of my former self.

[mystrymeat86]

Rough story man, I'm not sure what to say. You got put in a bad position, and you did your best, but its not good to keep reliving that. The first time I got serious with a girl it took me forever to get over it, but once I did my life got so much more bearable. It sounds like you still have feelings for her. Is it possible that certain feelings you have towards people are being projected from this? Consider it, cause it may not seem so at first, but we hardly know who we are at this point in our lives. For a long time there was someone I thought I cared about very deeply, but I realized that I was just ignoring a deeper unresolved emotion. These things eat away at you if you don't deal with them, move past them.

[hodateelmundo]

As I told Alex above, I moved away from that life about 2 years ago. I was only using it as an example of my former self, because that was not the point of the post. I have a dificult time just coming out and saying what I feel, which is why I put it into the context of a story. I thought about what you said about emotions towards other being projected from this, and know that they are not, because I let go of Cary 2 years ago, and while I do still ask her how she's doing, I don't dwell on it like I used to.

[matt100fly]

I read the story and well it really got to me, I guess becasue I try to make stuff up like that in stories and all well for you it truely happened and you can relate to things that did you well in life or didn't do something you wanted to or in your case what happened to you. I think it is cool how you just put it all out on the board like that. It is cool. You know dispite the shit that has happened between us you our little scuttles you seemed like a cool person to hang with and this story was like, I don't know but I was reading it and it all was happening right infront of me playing before by eyes. but yeah lets put our stupid shit indescressions in the past. Since we will be in theatre all year together next year, lol. Peace and change is god, and comindations on the story, although it was true it was very good. not trying to you know say anything wrong since I know it was heartfelt and all.

[hodateelmundo]

The past is just that, the past. I'm willing to move past our previous incidents if you are.

[matt100fly]

yeah, shit happens...

[kookykid97]

you can never go back. thats really the truth. no matter how much we wan't to we can't. as much as it may hurt us to have lost our former self, it would hurt more to try and be that person agin. all you can do is keep moving forward. keep changing. sometimes in doing so you find without meaning to or knowing it you acually somehow become that person agin....

Awww

[guitrgirlie69]

I've been behind on posts because I've been out of town...that is so sad and I know you well enough to know that you're a nice, funny, kind, sweet guy. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I was in a situation very similar to that when I had to move...I knew that I could no longer be with my ex, who was now my best guy friend, and he was dating these girls that made me jealous...they were better than me, I thought, and I was completely sad. That was at the end of my 8th grade year. But sweetie, it was a LONG time ago and I'm sure you'll find someone good enough for you...as hard as it'll be to find a person as great as you! :D

Alyson