More on Russia & Tima.

[hochi666]

I’ve been trying to think about a way to write about the trip to Russia to pick up Tima without sounding like I hate my new son. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate the little guy, I certainly do ya-tib-ya-loo-bloo (I love you) the dude -- but as my dear, dear, dear, sweet wife and I discussed last night in whispered tones on the couch after finally

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[wonderderf]

I think you and your wife are remarkable people for everything that you've gone through simply to give a child a life he never would have/could have had on his own in his country.

What still amazes me is that you can still read about people who have houses FULL of children from foreign countries that they've adopted into their loving homes. I feel like my wires are often frayed just juggling the two kids that were born directly into our family (and while one is 'special needs,' he's in no way a burden any more than any other child is or would be); I simply can't imagine having to coax a child along through an unfamiliar world after the years of what Tima's life was like beforehand.

How do the people who adopt multiple children at a time out of situations like this handle that?

[hochi666]

We went there with a couple who were adopting two kids from the same orphanage ages almost 2 and 3. I dunno how they're going to do it. My hope is that in a few weeks we'll have a better picture of how we can expect him to adjust to our home. I have a good feeling that he'll be okay, but its still too early to tell. Thanks for the praise.

[melody_licious]

I agree, this is a huge, important thing you two are doing. I was hoping you'd share the story thus far, thanks. Best of luck and I hope and bet that everything will be fine in the future, with time. And geez, how much Russian did you have to learn?

[hochi666]

Oh, I think it'll get better. I hope! We learned enough Russian to communicate with a two year old and enough to piss off Russians at the market when we'd try to speak it and they'd know immediately that we're not Russian. Consequently when out in public I tried to speak as little as possible.

[leighton]

3rded on the saintly endeavor you are undertaking with "TimChi". Anyone can breed, you can parent.

Russians should smile that you even attempted their insane language

[hochi666]

I was told that Russian would appreciate us trying to speak the language, but that wasn't the case at all. This old biddy at the grocery store gave me a naaaasty look when I said "Neyt, etta dil-ya-tib-ya" (No, I do not have that) when she asked me if I had any smaller bills than a 500 ruble note. I'm sure my pronunciation is horrible.

[tiredshaw]

Man. It's hard enough raising a 2-year old under normal circumstances! I'm sure you'll do fine.

[hochi666]

You posts about the kids scare the hell out of me now.

[tiredshaw]

Maybe I'm too negative! Trust me, it's also extremely rewarding. 2 is a tough age because they can't really communicate yet.

[hochi666]

Naw, I appreciate your honesty. 2 is doubly tough for us because he's trying to speak Russian to us! Although, everyone we've talked to that has adopted kids his age from Russia have said that within 6-8 their kids picked up English very well. I'm looking forward to that. Oh, and getting him into Donald Fagen.