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[hobbled]

We've duked it out on multiple levels, and there's still no solution. He needs kids. I don't need kids with someone who can't satisfy the needs that I have. He says he's sticking around, but there doesn't seem to be much heart in it. Either way, I'm depressed pretty much all the time now, and I don't know what to do about any of it. I find

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[ohsochewy]

Aside from making a move in the direction of splitting up, are there other things you can do to get out of your house and be occupied in other ways? You're in the Cities, right? If you need some ideas, I can help.

[hobbled]

Money is a big constraint. There's not a lot that sounds enjoyable at this point either. Most of my usual activities are loner ones, and don't really involve going anywhere. I'm open for suggestions though.

[ohsochewy]

Yeah, I figured. I have some good friends up there who could give me some recs. I know you like animals; would you like to help out at a cat rescue place?

[livingarms]

Can you seek temporary help for your depression? Perhaps it could help you to see things more clearly, to think more clearly, to communicate more directly, and to cry less. Obviously this needs to be sorted out one way or the other. Avoiding the issue by gaming all night won't bring you closer together. Sticking around if you are absolutely sure that things aren't going to get better and that there are, if you'll excuse the cliché, irreconcilable differences is just prolonging the heartache and wasting your time.

[livingarms]

I did not mean that to sound heartless. Perhaps it did. I feel a great deal for you and have been in, what seems to be by description, nearly the exact same situation. I'm so sorry for your pain.

[dire_mongoose]

Maybe you could offer some kind of compromise as a starting point, like, you'll game together or whatever he wants to do two nights a week, you'll do whatever you want together two nights a week, and you each do whatever you want the other three?

That doesn't sound like wedded bliss either, but I can't see any way to a marriage that's happy again that doesn't start with the two of you spending more time together not hating each other, you know?

Keep your chin up if you can, punkin.

[hobbled]

He's already got his three nights a week dedicated to running stupid Kara instances, and pretty much spends the other evenings doing the same thing. He doesn't want to spend time with me, so I guess that's just what I have to put up with right now since I can't afford anything different.