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[hkath]

Is there anything more awkward than when you introduce yourself and friend someone and they say nothing and don't friend you back? Especially when they're friends with your friends. Of course, being generally oblivious and having a memory about 1.5 seconds, I usually just end up forgetting that I've single-sidedly friended someone. But I just

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[delicatelight]

Ugh. I hate that. I had a person who even commented back all friendly and everything, then never friended me back. Me being me, I always think, "The hell? I'm awesome, why are they not friending me back?!" But I'm self-delusional like that.

[cmonkatiekatie]

oh, by the by, I think you're awesome, so I'm gonna friend you, k? (and despite my awkward decision to friend you in someone else's post specifically about friending back, no pressure! Of course, I am awesome too though.)

[delicatelight]

Ha. When I saw you friended me I thought, "Oh, crap, I'm going to have to tell this poor girl about how I'm in bandom now," because I assumed you were in SPN or something, but then I checked your profile, and yay! Bandom has eaten your soul, too!

So anyway. *friends* OMG YAY!

[hkath]

I watched you guys get eaten by bandom *simultaneously*, so this is very odd for me. Thrilling, but odd :D

[cmonkatiekatie]

They have no idea what they're missing!

[hkath]

Awww! I'm afraid it's not much lately, actually. I need to be more random!

*does a little dance*

[horvendile]

I have a different perspective. There are several people that have friended me that I have not friended back. There are even a few that I'm friends with IRL. I think you might have friended me well before I friended you. It isn't a comment on the other person. I just don't read that many journals and sometimes think to myself, "Why should I add somebody else that I'm not going to read?" I know I have plenty of friends that don't read me. The only ones that bug me are the people that spend a huge amount of time reading journals and searching for new ones but still don't read mine. Even then all it merits is a shrug. I get more annoyed at myself for caring than the person not reading me. As it says someplace when you first join LJ, "don't feel compelled to friend back everybody that friends you." OK that wasn't an exact quote but I never know what to do with paraphrases

[hkath]

No, not at all. I was referring more to fandom-related people. You, I appreciate having even though we don't interact all that much on here, because even if I don't click your link I still get a good idea of what's going on in your life and I feel in touch. I'm not a big commenter, overall.

And like I said, I'm mostly oblivious. I probably didn't notice that I had one-sidedly friended you way back when. It takes a *lot* for me to notice. (Today that lot had to do with seeing someone's unlocked post and realizing that I'd missed months of friendslocked entries due to their never having friended me back. See? Oblivious. And how lame is that?)

[hkath]

Oh, also: there are lots of people who've friended me who I haven't friended back. The difference is that they've never spoken up. When someone introduces themselves and friends me, I pretty much always friend back.

[shoiryu]

I do this too. Stealth friending me doesn't tend to get much, but if you go HI, HOW R U, I'll usually hit the friend back button pretty quick. :D

[zelda_zee]

Your post made me realize that there's a bunch of people on my flist whose journals I hadn't even checked out yet. So I got halfway through it, will finish later. Point being, maybe it's just a case of being distracted/forgetting? Or maybe they're like me and they usually wait a while before friending back?

I would think you'd be interesting enough for anyone!

[hkath]

Nah, it's weird. Like, we share the same friends, we have comment conversations sometimes on memes and such, just not on their ljs specifically. In one case, I repeatedly stop myself from commenting like I would on a normal friend's posts because I get this image of her getting freaked out by my comments since I'm not on her flist. So. Awkward.

[kashmir1]

YOU WILL ALWAYS BE INTERESTING TO ME KATH.

[hkath]

JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE FASCINATED BY MY CATASTROPHIC, PIGEON-KILLING LIFE.

[kashmir1]

PERHAPS.

Perhaps I also think you are the bee's knees.

[hkath]

Likewise! <333