Comments | hfcougar: And then I put on my angry bitch pants.

hfcougar

And then I put on my angry bitch pants.

Dec 10, 2012 14:52

So, a good discussion has been started already on how to address sexual harrassment in the SCA, and I really hope it grows. But I think one step has been left out and it's really the important one.

Step 1: Believe the person who tells you that they are being harrassed.I am serious. In any group of people where harrassment is or may be occurring, ( Read more... )

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dervishspin December 10 2012, 20:15:00 UTC

I am glad to hear that the conversation is going! I am proud of you for picking it up and working with it. This can not be easy for you. It is clearly not. But you are doing it anyway.

hfcougar December 10 2012, 21:10:08 UTC

Thank you.

It isn't easy and it comes from being appalled at how a friend's local group is handling their situation. I think it's something most people in the SCA don't like to think about, and in our chivalrous, pro-female, courtesy and honor based society it would seem like it "shouldn't" happen, but anywhere there are groups of people, unfortunately, things like this can in fact happen.

gwenlianna December 11 2012, 03:59:43 UTC

Perhaps it shouldn't... but it does. And it's not easy to deal with, anywhere. Avoiding the person, or situations that expose you to them, is effective but fails to address the true problem.

guendalina December 11 2012, 05:24:33 UTC

but that puts the victim back in a victim role because she needs to avoid something that she loves, maybe avoid a large group of her friends.

whildbill December 14 2012, 10:19:33 UTC

Many people don't know that... ...and then suddenly they were able to see it. FUCK THAT SHIT.I do not mean to disrespect your barony, but that seems to me like the group has a problem, that needs to be addressed. A group having a case of 'head-in-the-sand' is no better than if one individual has it ( ... )