Re: [private]bananas_anOctober 2 2007, 22:37:38 UTC
Maybe and maybe not. It could be your own insecurities and guilt talking. And even if he feels that way now, when he calms down, he'll remember who and what you are and know that's not true.
Ginny, you did NOT have to tell him. It would have been a helluva lot easier not to tell him. But you were honest. He'll see that eventually.
Re: [private]hex_you_upOctober 2 2007, 22:49:13 UTC
I don't know. Maybe. I hope I'm wrong and you're right.
I couldn't not tell him. ...That was one of the things that went wrong with Zuko and me... After one of our fights Light and Reno decided I needed a vacation and we went to Reno's world and. Fooled around... I slept with Reno and. Other things. And didn't tell Zuko about it, and then he found out later and it was bad. So. I know keeping that sort of thing a secret in a relationship is just a bad idea.
Re: [private]bananas_anOctober 2 2007, 23:09:45 UTC
He...you know. He's probably a little insecure. I was about Kevin--sorry, but that's my only frame of reference. And, honestly? I think Kevin is about me. It's normal, I think.
I think you were right to be honest. Thing would be tons worse if he'd found out another way. And even if he hadn't, it'd eat away at you.
Just be patient. I know that's hard. Dammit. I wish I had better advice.
Re: [private]bananas_anOctober 2 2007, 23:53:41 UTC
Yeah, but it sounds like there may be a bit of that. I mean, he knows you loved Zuko once. So maybe?
Yeah. And if they hate each other the way you say, um...it's possible Zuko could have let the cat out of the bag himself if he got ticked off. Not saying he would, but just to jab at Light. Guys are STUPID.
Re: [private]bananas_anOctober 3 2007, 03:29:19 UTC
Me, too. Then I remember that he brought it upon himself!
I...do I even want to know? This sounds pretty bad to me. I hate that silent treatment crap. It drives me INSANE. I want to yell and scream and get it OVER WITH thank you very much.
Re: [private]hex_you_upOctober 3 2007, 03:38:51 UTC
Yes, he did.
It was after Zuko and I broke up. Like I told you -- Light's my best friend, and he's the one I've always gone to when I needed someone. So he got worried when I didn't go talk to him, but I couldn't, you see, I'd just realised I was in love with him and if I went and saw him then... I needed some time to think things through. But he came and found me instead, and we had this whole long conversation through the bathroom door and he managed to get the idea that I thought all my problems were his fault, so he went back home and destroyed his Portkey. We didn't talk for a week, and I basically didn't sleep, either, every time I tried I'd have the Nightmare. There wasn't any screaming or anything, but it hurt worse, you know? At least now I know he loves me
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Re: [private]bananas_anOctober 3 2007, 04:21:00 UTC
Oh, yeah. I can understand.
...Men are such...IDIOTS! They're more concerned with butting heads like rutting stags than they are with how they make us feel. Hell, he probably thought saying that to you made it OBVIOUS he loves you back.
Maybe...maybe he thinks you don't have faith in his abilities? I don't know. I'm the wrong person to ask about guys. I thought I understood them pretty well, but when it gets to all the relationship stuff, I screw up.
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When it gets to that point is when you have to tell him you NEED to talk. You know him best. How do you think he's really feeling?
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Ginny, you did NOT have to tell him. It would have been a helluva lot easier not to tell him. But you were honest. He'll see that eventually.
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I couldn't not tell him. ...That was one of the things that went wrong with Zuko and me... After one of our fights Light and Reno decided I needed a vacation and we went to Reno's world and. Fooled around... I slept with Reno and. Other things. And didn't tell Zuko about it, and then he found out later and it was bad. So. I know keeping that sort of thing a secret in a relationship is just a bad idea.
Gods I hope you're right.
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I think you were right to be honest. Thing would be tons worse if he'd found out another way. And even if he hadn't, it'd eat away at you.
Just be patient. I know that's hard. Dammit. I wish I had better advice.
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Oh, gods, yes. It would have been. Especially considering how much they hate each other.
You're helping, really you are.
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Yeah. And if they hate each other the way you say, um...it's possible Zuko could have let the cat out of the bag himself if he got ticked off. Not saying he would, but just to jab at Light. Guys are STUPID.
I hope so. I wish I could come over there.
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Oh, no, he would. I wouldn't put it past him for an instant.
Well, we are still on for tomorrow, right?
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Yeah. So better you told him. I think Light will agree with that when he thinks about it. You chose NOT to deceive him. That's a good thing.
Sure are!
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I know it is. I just... I suppose I can understand him being a bit hacked off now, but if he stays upset I don't know what I'll do.
Good. I think I'm going to need the break.
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Give him a day or so. Akaya seemed to think he'd need that.
We'll have fun. Oh, and I promised Emma I'd take pictures at Ayame's shop.
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Yeah. I guess it can't be as bad as the last time we had a fight.
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I...do I even want to know? This sounds pretty bad to me. I hate that silent treatment crap. It drives me INSANE. I want to yell and scream and get it OVER WITH thank you very much.
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It was after Zuko and I broke up. Like I told you -- Light's my best friend, and he's the one I've always gone to when I needed someone. So he got worried when I didn't go talk to him, but I couldn't, you see, I'd just realised I was in love with him and if I went and saw him then... I needed some time to think things through. But he came and found me instead, and we had this whole long conversation through the bathroom door and he managed to get the idea that I thought all my problems were his fault, so he went back home and destroyed his Portkey. We didn't talk for a week, and I basically didn't sleep, either, every time I tried I'd have the Nightmare. There wasn't any screaming or anything, but it hurt worse, you know? At least now I know he loves me ( ... )
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...Men are such...IDIOTS! They're more concerned with butting heads like rutting stags than they are with how they make us feel. Hell, he probably thought saying that to you made it OBVIOUS he loves you back.
Maybe...maybe he thinks you don't have faith in his abilities? I don't know. I'm the wrong person to ask about guys. I thought I understood them pretty well, but when it gets to all the relationship stuff, I screw up.
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