good for minutes of fun, at least

[hermionesviolin]

Due to dinner delays, we didn't get to UCN until maybe 7:30. I chatted with Mike F., gave Bev a backrub [I really don't think I'm that awesome; I think people are just easy], and then went to work at the booktable (though I took a break when Tim came by, learned he and Carla are adopting a baby from China

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no, i will never be normal

[wisdomeagle]

I certainly believe that sexuality is (can be) fluid and that adolescence especially is a time of exploration, but their response included basically no validation of the possibility that she might really be a lesbian.

When I was that age -- well, a little younger, by the time I was 15 I was pretty much beyond caring what the books said -- I found it very unsettling that much of the literature I read said, "Well, it's perfectly normal to have crushes on girls or women; you might be straight anyhow!" Which isn't what I wanted to hear, though I suppose I can understand the rationale. And it wasn't quite as unaffirming as the answer you quoted.

And while I'm not exactly sure what your running commentary sounded like, I'm sure you can imagine mine. *g*

Re: no, i will never be normal

[hermionesviolin]

My flippant reaction to that question when I saw it in the table of contents was "No" with an implied "And isn't it better that way?" And I wasn't even particularly thinking of sexual normativity.

My running commentary involved a lot of allusion to you :)

I don't remember ever really *reading* "the literature." My mom gave me books like The What's Happening to My Body Book for Girls when I was 11 or 13 and I felt like I already knew it all though I couldn't say where I'd learned it from. Non-heterosexuality (though I'm fairly sure was dealt with in the books) was never on my radar screen [though of course now I'm always very interested to read what people have to say about it]. I felt weird for not being attracted to boys, but I wasn't attracted to anyone, so the weirdness was knowing I was developmentally "delayed" (I didn't actually think of it in terms of pathology or anything, but I knew I wasn't developing at the same time as my peers, which sucks for relating to one's peers).