i'm having another of those weird moments where i feel older than i ever have at the same time as feeling like i'm in high school again. ( why, helen? i'm dying to know... )
I think I'm a bit younger than you, and lots of people my age are already getting married, but not to the point that people assume that I'm in the marrying range as well. I understand what you're saying though. A lot of people that I graduated high school with are getting married or are married or are having children. In fact I was overcome with the oddest feeling when I said to one of my roommates that I should take a trip to visit my friend because I haven't seen her baby yet
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my brother got married at my age too:) in fact, he'd been married almost a year by now, i think. but i knew i was falling behind his life schedule when i wasn't engaged a couple years ago.
i don't know if i'll eventually get married. the idea is appealing, but i know a marriage takes a lot of work too, and maybe i'm not ready for all that work yet:) but i'm pretty picky about who i date even, so i'm not too worried about marrying some guy just to be married. you know? and sometimes i see what people are saying when they tell me i'm lucky for not having any strings yet. i don't have anyone to plan around but me, which is great when you actually have plans:)
but if i had someone in my life like you do, maybe planning around him wouldn't seem so much like a sacrifice:)
If moving to another environment would delay your assumed singlehood, then by the time you actually moved out, people in the new environment might still assume you're not single anymore. :P (It sounded a lot better in my head, I swear.)
It's difficult to gauge what makes a happy relationship. My godbrother told me yesterday that he and his ex broke up 7 months ago because "we were bored of each other." I thought they were perfect for each other, especially since they were together for so long... but I guess that's a valid reason as any why anyone would break up. You can have all the right conditions and lack the chemistry. Maybe I should have put "Chemistry" in my non-negotiable box.
Wow. Six months ago, I would have put "The guy must not want any kids, ever" in the non-negotiable box.
i understand what you're saying about by the time i move, i'll be too old to be assumed single there either:)
i tried to think of an option besides been in a happy relationship or not, but i couldn't think of one:) sometimes they're happy while you're in them, not so much once you're out. again, relationships are just so incredibly complex, i never know how even to approach thinking objectively about them. i get so frustrated by things that logic has so little say in:) i'm so sick of being attracted to guys who are wrong for me, and not attracted to guys who seem perfect for me.
I'm 29, and pretty much none of my friends are married. So there you go. Besides, who gives a shit? I've been in a relationship for 6 years, still no desire for marriage.
PS: can my cookie be chocolate chip? And probably packaged really well to survive the trip to New Zealand. Cheers, H.
yeah, actually none of my really close friends are married either, or even dating, which is nice. a lot of my guy friends are getting married this summer for some reason, but my girl friends remain single.
when i was asked today if i have kids, i think i might have snorted:) no! i exclaimed. i'm too young yet. i have things to do.
Yeah, hell, as far as I'm concerned, you don't have kids until you're settled, particularly career-wise. And that sure as hell ain't me, so I'm with you. We could start a no-kids club!
a lot of my guy friends are getting married this summer for some reason, but my girl friends remain single.
hahaha... i guess i haven't met most of the people my guy friends are marrying. i'll have to wait till the invites come to see if i have to go to san francisco or not...
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That may in part be a geography thing. I think people marry later when you get to more densely populated areas.
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i don't know if i'll eventually get married. the idea is appealing, but i know a marriage takes a lot of work too, and maybe i'm not ready for all that work yet:) but i'm pretty picky about who i date even, so i'm not too worried about marrying some guy just to be married. you know? and sometimes i see what people are saying when they tell me i'm lucky for not having any strings yet. i don't have anyone to plan around but me, which is great when you actually have plans:)
but if i had someone in my life like you do, maybe planning around him wouldn't seem so much like a sacrifice:)
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It's difficult to gauge what makes a happy relationship. My godbrother told me yesterday that he and his ex broke up 7 months ago because "we were bored of each other." I thought they were perfect for each other, especially since they were together for so long... but I guess that's a valid reason as any why anyone would break up. You can have all the right conditions and lack the chemistry. Maybe I should have put "Chemistry" in my non-negotiable box.
Wow. Six months ago, I would have put "The guy must not want any kids, ever" in the non-negotiable box.
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i tried to think of an option besides been in a happy relationship or not, but i couldn't think of one:) sometimes they're happy while you're in them, not so much once you're out. again, relationships are just so incredibly complex, i never know how even to approach thinking objectively about them. i get so frustrated by things that logic has so little say in:) i'm so sick of being attracted to guys who are wrong for me, and not attracted to guys who seem perfect for me.
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PS: can my cookie be chocolate chip? And probably packaged really well to survive the trip to New Zealand. Cheers, H.
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when i was asked today if i have kids, i think i might have snorted:) no! i exclaimed. i'm too young yet. i have things to do.
i'll look into the cookie situation:)
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a lot of my guy friends are getting married this summer for some reason, but my girl friends remain single.
Yay for gay marriages! Great to see.
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