Ten day meme, part seven: turn-offs

[hazliya]

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn-offs. Day Eight:

Comments

[redfishie]

I am so with you on the first 2. Both drive me nuts, an will likely make my own list in some form.

[breakinglight11]

I AGREE WITH ALL THESE THINGS. SO MUCH.

[hazliya]

You've been writing fashion, right? How do you feel about muffin tops?

[breakinglight11]

DESPISE THEM. Not only is it kind of unattractive and in poor taste, it's like not respecting your body-- "Oh, this style of dress is what's cool, so I'd better wear it whether it makes me look good or not. The clothes that actually suit my figure aren't good enough." Bah. Any figure looks better in things that fit and flatter. Muffin tops are the symptom of the exact opposite of that.

[hazliya]

I won't even wear underwear that pinches even a little. Lace is good for that. I can't understand people who are otherwise attractive, but insist on wearing clothing that is too small. Wearing a skinnier size doesn't make you look skinnier! It does the opposite!

[hazliya]

Not bored so much as being theatrically evasive at interacting as a bid for attention. The kind of "poor me, come rescue me" is a lure for people with white knight complexes. =/

Especially in geek circles, where the instinct is to assume that they have social issues.

[offside7]

Totally with you on the Sad Girl in the Corner, except I would call it "Sad Person in the Corner." I think I've personally seen it more with guys.

[acousticshadow2]

I also despise the pity me complex, and I actively avoid the company of people who portray it, but there is a level of social ill comfort that can be genuine.

For example, I suffer from social anxiety in large groups of people I am not acquainted with. I do well in small groups but am very uncomfortable in the company of a lot of people I don’t know. I do not leave my anxieties as an excuse not to socialize. I will often sit on the sidelines for an hour or so getting comfortable with my surroundings before I will branch out. Once I do, I’m a social butterfly. There is a fine line between social anxiety and passive aggressive “demand for attention” But demand for attention is easy to tell within the first 5 minutes of conversation.

Also, I find the white knight complex annoying. I don’t need to be rescued thank you very much. This princess isn’t in the castle because I’ve already fought my way out! I get really annoyed at people who when I vent because I have a problem try to white knight fix everything for me.

[hazliya]

I do not leave my anxieties as an excuse not to socialize.

See, that makes all the difference, in my opinion. I have no pity for those who don't even try. I will not help those not willing to help themselves.

If I see someone looking awkward, but still trying to be engaged in their surroundings, I'm more than happy to come over and introduce them to a few people and kick them into the conversation. But if you close yourself off and expect someone to come to you, I won't expend the effort, you know?