Comments | halfshellvenus: The Real LJ Idol: "Different Destinations" (unused story)

halfshellvenus

The Real LJ Idol: "Different Destinations" (unused story)

Apr 27, 2012 10:27

Different Destinations
449 words
In your wheelhouse (this is the fiction story I also wrote for the week 24 Real LJ Idol prompt, but I chose the non-fiction one instead).

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( I was never quite what you wanted... )

original_fiction, my_fic, real lj idol, home game

Comments 2

medleymisty April 30 2012, 22:50:50 UTC

Very interesting. I bet some of my old friends think of me that way, with my burning passions for whatever.

I am violently against having images in your mind of some perfect partner or whatever. I don't have much experience with that sort of thing IRL (thinking about it - really the only experience is maybe how my best friend in high school dragged me to see Titanic in theaters 10 times (at least one of those at the drive-in) because she idealized the character Jack and Leonardo DiCaprio so much - but when people talk about it online it's always so horribly shallow, and it leads to so much pain.

Maybe that's why there's the whole cliche of having to love yourself before you can love others, because I think things like lists and expectations and not being able to accept other people as they are may come from a lack of self-acceptance. Certainly a lack of self-knowledge and a definite immaturity.

I'm glad the narrator is happy now. :)

halfshellvenus May 1 2012, 00:08:52 UTC

This story is actually, to a certain degree, based on a number of men I know who actually have this hobby-- pretty much to this extreme! I've never dated any of them, but because I cycle so much for exercise, the topic of "Why not get really invested in it?!?" has come up many times. :0

I like what you mentioned about internal "lists" and idealization. I think the reality of who you love very rarely meets those lists (assuming you become flexible enough to find such a person). But I do fear letting my expectations of people become excessive. It's one reason I chose not to know the sex of either of our babies beforehand-- I wanted to learn who each baby was over time, and avoid assumptions as much as possible. Might have been overdoing it, but it worked for us!

I'm glad the narrator is happy now. :)Me too! You get the sense that perhaps the narrator hoped the other person would become more reasonable over time, but that itself wasn't necessarily reasonable (or wise). That aspect of an adult rarely tends to change ( ... )