In Ireland it is is actually very difficult to find an Irish child to adopt. I don't know exactly how difficult, because I don't know anyone attempting to do it at the moment, but these days (in sharp contrast to even as recently as 20 years ago) it is uncommon to find children put up for adoption. We no longer have the the Catholic Church throwing unmarried mothers into slavery, and abortion is freely available in Britain.
There is something slightly creepy about rich, white people going off to poorer countries than the one they live in and taking away babies. There are even some countries in Europe where is very easy to buy a baby. I do however think it is acceptable (not buying babies obviously, adopting them!)if the only other option for the baby is to languish in an orphanage. I'm not weighing up the relative values keeping your native culture against living in a comfortable (foreign) home, but I don't think anyone would argue that it's better to live in an orphanage than with caring, adoptive parents.
Hence, I say, it is obscene that the situation exists.
...and there are occasions where children are given up to orphanages because their parents couldn't afford them, making funding UN the greater good. The father of Madonna's new adopted son was happy that his son will now grow up well, I just think that it's obscene the situation exist.
...and if there is a cross racial adoption, the parents need to accept it for what it is, cross-racial, that accepting a child of different race, different culture into the family, would and should change the family. It is wrong to 'white-wash' the child, and it is also wrong to believe that it's something as simply as sending the child off to whatever, because then the child will feel alone. I believe, even though the whole situation is already /lesser/ evil, it won't really be happy unless it's like Angelina Jolie, the whole family goes bi-cultural.
Depends on how good they are at lyinggsyhFebruary 21 2007, 20:37:36 UTC
I also have problem with it, if the child is of a different culture. For example, I'll have problem with an English couple adopting a French child and then not raising the child with a knowledge of French culture while they themselves adapting some of it so the child won't be left out.
There will be a 'wrong' vibe, if the parents in question, does not respect the child's heritage, but if they are both the same colour, looks alike, and the child never finds out...then the child wouldn't ever feel weird.
The American system is fucked up, so /lobby/, meanwhile, you could also offer a supporting co-parent role to teenage parents, maybe be a godparent. Help them so that their lives won't be so difficult that they will have to give their children up or get struck in a cycle of poverty.
Maybe I'm just weird because of the way my own heritage is handled, but I really don't see the big deal with it if the child doesn't know a whole lot about their original culture. I'm not saying that countries shouldn't have strong cultural values/ties/whatever, but I don't see how it's that big a deal if the occasional person finds another culture to fit into.
They might be happy there. It might not matter to them if they don't know much about their original culture. I just don't see the problem as long as someone is well taken care of by their new family...
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There is something slightly creepy about rich, white people going off to poorer countries than the one they live in and taking away babies. There are even some countries in Europe where is very easy to buy a baby. I do however think it is acceptable (not buying babies obviously, adopting them!)if the only other option for the baby is to languish in an orphanage. I'm not weighing up the relative values keeping your native culture against living in a comfortable (foreign) home, but I don't think anyone would argue that it's better to live in an orphanage than with caring, adoptive parents.
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...and there are occasions where children are given up to orphanages because their parents couldn't afford them, making funding UN the greater good. The father of Madonna's new adopted son was happy that his son will now grow up well, I just think that it's obscene the situation exist.
...and if there is a cross racial adoption, the parents need to accept it for what it is, cross-racial, that accepting a child of different race, different culture into the family, would and should change the family. It is wrong to 'white-wash' the child, and it is also wrong to believe that it's something as simply as sending the child off to whatever, because then the child will feel alone. I believe, even though the whole situation is already /lesser/ evil, it won't really be happy unless it's like Angelina Jolie, the whole family goes bi-cultural.
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There will be a 'wrong' vibe, if the parents in question, does not respect the child's heritage, but if they are both the same colour, looks alike, and the child never finds out...then the child wouldn't ever feel weird.
The American system is fucked up, so /lobby/, meanwhile, you could also offer a supporting co-parent role to teenage parents, maybe be a godparent. Help them so that their lives won't be so difficult that they will have to give their children up or get struck in a cycle of poverty.
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They might be happy there. It might not matter to them if they don't know much about their original culture. I just don't see the problem as long as someone is well taken care of by their new family...
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