Comments | grendel317: Wild and Crazy

grendel317

Wild and Crazy

Jan 21, 2009 12:19

I think maybe I complain about things too much. I don't see myself as the sort of person who's bitching and moaning all the time, but if I really pay attention to all the things coming out of my mouth in a given day, a lot of it is negative. I'm going to try to go a full month without complaining about anything and see how that affects my outlook ( Read more... )

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ninsun January 21 2009, 17:21:58 UTC

i have the same problem and that is easier said than done.

grendel317 January 21 2009, 20:27:34 UTC

I believe it!

The second part, not the first. Well, the first too, if you say so.

I stop typing now! :-)

adifferentriver January 21 2009, 17:27:15 UTC

I admire you for attempting this, but I'm not entirely sure I can join you in this effort. I fear if I did not have venting as an outlet, heads would roll! Still, I'll try to support you in your endeavor... I'm interested to see where this goes.

grendel317 January 21 2009, 20:29:04 UTC

I suspect it will go to a lot of bruises on my arm from getting punched. :-)

adifferentriver January 21 2009, 21:08:02 UTC

At least now it's punching for a purpose. ;)

aquaknot January 21 2009, 18:13:52 UTC

I applaud your effort. One thing I try to do is always answer "How are you?" with a robust "Awesome" or "Fantastic." I do believe it creates a mindset that is more open to all that is positive. Good luck, I really hope it works for you--though I consider you one of the more constructive and positive people I know!

grendel317 January 21 2009, 20:42:28 UTC

Thanks!

I've considered that, but, along similar lines to my current experiment, I decided to be completely honest a while ago, even in the face of social expectations. It started out as a "I'll just try this," sort of thing, and I decided I liked it so now I try to stick with it. (I mean this, by the way, in the sense that I try not to say untrue things, not in the sense that I must inform everybody of everything. I think the latter is a fairly thin excuse some people use to be a jerk and then say "I'm just being honest.")

So, if I'm not actually doing awesome, I'll usually reply with something along the lines of, "Oh, I'm all right, how about yourself?" "I'm getting along," or maybe "Well, I've been better, but I'm hanging in there," if I'm having a truly crummy day. Of course, ideally I will just decide that I am, in fact, having an awesome day so that I can honestly reply, "Fantastic!" :-)

As Candide might explain . . . aquaknot January 22 2009, 00:13:37 UTC

YOU have to muster the sincerity to say "AWESOME!" That is indeed difficult to do sometimes, so it helps to arm yourself with frequent reminders of what is going right.

And as you say things are awesome, you will start to believe things are awesome, and then things will in fact be awesome. Because they are, actually.

bunnyko January 24 2009, 06:56:22 UTC

you know, i do enjoy punching the shit out of my guy friends, but i've never really felt the desire to do that to you. maybe fear of getting punched back? i tend to complain alot too, usually when i notice it i try to not necessarily be positive, but at least try to control what comes out a bit. on the topic of saying you're doing great when people ask, you probably get asked that alot less than i do. when you work in retail, you get asked that everyday, usually by every customer, and if you are having a shitty day, you aren;t ALLOWED to say that, so you have to lie to them. i don;t like lying, even when its something that simple, and usually have to downgrade it to "ok" or "could be worse." it would be nice to be able to say "kinda bad." and just move on with the convo, but i rarely get that chance.