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greatbearmd

LJ stuffs

Aug 08, 2009 01:23

Since LJ (along with Facebook and Twitter) has been dogged with usability and functional issues for a couple days now due to denial of service attacks, notifications of comments I have left in other journals that may have gotten responses have been spotty at best. So, if you said something in response to my responses, don't be surprised if I haven' ( Read more... )

drama, lj drama, friends list, lj issues

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beardoc August 8 2009, 08:20:48 UTC

I'm of the belief that many of us that have been on LiveJournal for a while are all subject to a bit of "default view"-ing out of other people's lives. It's the easier way of not having to deal with someone whilst avoiding the drama of dropping people from your friends list. But I don't like it - it seems a bit odd, and a bit shady. So I haven't done it.

But it's interesting when you haven't gotten a comment or an email from someone in over a year or more - you do start to wonder...

2stroker August 8 2009, 10:55:18 UTC

I clear out the "dead wood" about twice a year.No drama I just do it and it's done.The way I see it is if they don't post anything I want to read or respond to any of my posts why bother having them cluttering up my friends list.I think there are only really 10 or 15 people I really have as LJ friends now and that's just fine with me.

mcbulldawg August 8 2009, 11:09:00 UTC

Simplify! :)

Less clutter... no drama! :)

oh.. and Hi by the way!

greatbearmd August 8 2009, 22:11:20 UTC

'allo! :)

mcbulldawg August 8 2009, 22:45:38 UTC

I hope you weren't taken aback by my cheeky comment to your comment you left in my journal.

*grin*

greatbearmd August 9 2009, 00:21:51 UTC

Which one?

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eric_mathgeek August 8 2009, 13:25:16 UTC

I have a reading list, filtering out a few folk. I suppose I see why you think it's "dickwaddish" behavior but -- is it any worse to know I'm just going to skip over every post they make?

It's a way to let them continue to read my friends-only entries, if they care to, without feeling like I need to read every one of theirs. And I can (and do) still now and then pop over to their journals to see what's going on.

greatbearmd August 8 2009, 15:58:24 UTC

I guess I had not thought about giving the ability of reading locked posts to people. It was more a case of 'why keep them if you never plan on reading or interacting with them'.

fingertrouble August 8 2009, 14:21:25 UTC

I never understood that tit for tat 'I'll defriend you if you defriend me' - kind of explains what kind of relationship they wanted (ie a number) and probably filtered out your blog anyway - something I have never done, I read (which might be skip if it's something I'm not interested in!) all my friendslist.

And reversely if someone has gotten really negative, less interesting, stopped posting (although I tend to leave those in cos I would like to still read them when I do) or has banned me from commenting on their blog (I think that is pretty final; even so I've left people in my FL as a sort of reminder that I still want to be friends, if I don't know why - I don't usually hold grudges, people have queen-attacks and go off one - I'm still here if they want to resume).

But really it is odd all the politics, you shouldn't have to apologise for defriending someone when you're not interested in reading them or their drama is stressing you out. Easy come easy go is how it should be...and people change.

greatbearmd August 8 2009, 16:15:24 UTC

My entry does not highlight something that happened recently, it was some time in the past.If someone de-lists me, no big deal. I will usually keep on reading their entries, the main reason I came to their journal in the first place. The Drama Llama trotted in when said individual removed a few folks - including me - from their list and those people reciprocated by doing the same, me included. Why? Because the entire journal had become frendslocked. Only a single public post containing a somewhat snarky picture about being "friends only" was available to anyone not part of the inner circle. Not unusual, but there was soon a very public post condemning the couple dozen or so who took their leave. This person did not take into consideration that he had left some people with no reason to remain, yet got all pissy about it, and got even nastier when told the reason. Who needs that crap ( ... )

fingertrouble August 8 2009, 16:41:41 UTC

Yes it makes total sense...I've been tempted to go friends-only but the fact it locks out new people as well as some idiots is the reason why I don't ( ... )