the sky is falling

[gravityslave]

According to the law of probability, it should be next to impossible for me to unintentionally make a fool of myself and humiliate me as often as I do.
I think I just shot down yet another balloon.

Is being up-front and honest always a bad thing when you're getting to know someone, or am I just spectacularly inept?

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[bodiesofwater]

what's up?

[gravityslave]

Ack!
I need to talk to you. I will call you once it's afternoon and you're awake, although knowing you you're probably already up...

[gravityslave]

You mean, people other than me? Because if that's what you mean I agree with you. I like flaws. Flaws make a man fascinating. What is less pleasant is feeling like a guy is saying one thing and meaning something completely different. I think I got the brush-off last night but I'm not completely sure and that's making me feel pretty embarrassed.

[diskrepansi]

I don't think it's a bad thing; perhaps it's the subject you're being honest about that's scary...?

[gravityslave]

Is the out-and-out "this is what I'm looking for at this point in my life: ________. Just FYI." thing scary? Because, then, yes.
I am perhaps just too open about everything all the time these days - it's like I got sick of going "Psssst! Hey buddy, ya wanna buy a watch" and started just laying everything on a vendor's table, shouting out "You take one, you get the lot! This is what it is what it is, dammit! Take it or leave it! Limited time offer! One real human, collector's edition but cracked - free to a good man!".
lol
I think I need to brush up that mental image a bit...

[diskrepansi]

It could be scary if that's not what they're looking for... the up-front/immediate idea of ________. Of course, part of that might depend on what ________ is. I'm guessing, however, that it doesn't involve only nudity and whipped cream.

;)

Perhaps it's the delivery? "I want _________!!" vs. "I'm looking for _________ sometime down the road when the right person comes along."

Next time, make sure to record everything for later scrutiny. I want video.

[gravityslave]

lol
Not only nudity and whipped cream, no.
I was being up front and honest about what I want because we're trying to figure out whether to get together or not, and if we do, in what capacity and so on. It's a diplomatic dance that has my feet aching.
But y'know, I'm impatient, so maybe I just need to chill the fuck out and find out what's what as it comes up...
(I'm just no good at that. No good at all.)

[kidlettes]

Humiliation and fool are part of my daily existence... I'm a dork plain and simple... maybe it's my friendship that has caused this to happen to you know too... maybe it's contagious...

Antibiotics may clean the situation... I was going to say rectify the situation but then my childish mind got the giggles and I couldn't follow through with that image...

Honesty is never a bad thing... it just disguises itself that way sometimes...

[gravityslave]

Thanks for that.
You're right, though: honesty was only a bad thing as far as my ex was concerned. I just hope that some day he looks back and really kicks himself for letting me go. I truly do. :-)
If anything about you is contagious I want some! You're awesome and I'll catch anything you can throw at me. ;-P

[kidlettes]

Exactly just because HE didn't want to hear it doesn't make it wrong. It's up to HIM to deal with it and accept it, you were nothing but honest... I mean really isn't that what we say we want from society... we teach our children that... we don't teach them that honesty is only ok when the other person is willing to hear and accept it. Well unless of course you are a politician... then honesty has a sliding scale...

[gravityslave]

As do accountability, responsibility, sanity...
lol
You're right. I kept thinking I must be broken, but the fact is that we didn't fit together because he was bent.