Elaborating on my vague comment earlier....

[gothams3rdrobin]

I'm a naturally quiet person, unless I know you really well. Then, if our friendship allows it, I can get very affectionately cheeky and enjoy a spot of banter. Not saying I'm any good at it, but I try

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[suchthefangirl]

The CosPlay comment feels like it is someone who is just kinda clueless, but possibly well meaning. The food comments are all just rude and insensitive. I don't have any solutions for you, other than, if it were me, I would stay away from those people.

I don't understand why people need to be mean like that, don't they listen to what they are saying? How could they think comments like that should be said to anyone?

My next question, of course, is how much do you like the job? Is it time to move on? (that's just me being a wuss and trying to leave when I don't feel comfortable anymore.)

I wish I had better advice, as I don't, I'll just send hugs.

*hugs*

[gothams3rdrobin]

*hugs back*

Oh the CosPlay thing wasn't meant to offend me, but it did kinda take me aback in the same way as being called weird. I don't mind so much my friends calling me weird, even those who only know me in a virtual setting - I'm a strong believer that 'normal' is a dryer setting ;-)

The office culture is one of snark and banter - the more popular you are, the more abusive the comments in your birthday cards. But I honestly don't understand why I have a reputation as a gannet.

I'll be honest, I hate the job. It bores me to tears. It's a good company to work for, as there are some good perks, and they've let me dictate my own working hours to fit around Rowan - this makes it hard to look elsewhere, 'cause I know I won't find any other job with such convenient shifts.

[aprilmay430]

At one of my jobs, someone once commented that I "knew all the weird stuff" because I mentioned that I knew what orgasmic migraines were (it was a work-related comment.) At the same place, somebody in another department acted as if I was some sort of pervert because she knew I watched Six Feet Under. (This, by the way, would be the same person who came to work dressed like a character from Sex and the City and spent her lunch hour flirting with construction workers.) Good thing nobody there knew about the slash fic.

I'm sure those people think they're just being funny, but it's hard to believe they can't understand how hurtful those kind of comments can be. *hugs*

[gothams3rdrobin]

Now see, that kind of weird is a reputation I enjoy having :-) My father filled my head with what he calls 'Useless Information' as I was growing up.

This particular woman at work though...maybe she didn't intend to offend me, but it did feel like she was calling me the bad kind of weird, if you know what I mean.

I fail to see how SFU is perverted though... :-/ What a strange woman.

And the slash-fic? Yeah, so not mentioning that at work...I take a risk reading the PG-13 stuff on ff.net at my desk in my tiny lunch break.

[phoebesmum]

I'm going to have to Google for 'orgasmic migraines'. The phrase hits a little close to home. /TMI

[thaya_rayal]

Sorry I didn't answer your email, been home sick (literaly). Next time someone make a commend like that, particularly a manager, say that was an un-nessisary personal comment and sk if they know you well enough to make tha kind of a comment. Most times they will back peddle rather quickly.

[yellowseptember]

seconds.

[gothams3rdrobin]

*snugs you both*

The Ops manager genuinely didn't mean to offend when he was talking about the RPG - he just didn't understand what it was about, and had come to his own conclusions. The eating thing...*shakes head* I guess I just must be too much of a pig for my own good.

[yellowseptember]

I think people sometimes take things of little consequence and blow them way the hell out of proportion just to get in a jab. You don't eat any more than they do. *twacks your coworkers*

[phoebesmum]

I'm self-conscious about eating, not to mention fat, and if people started on at me like that I would be most upset. Although it's true that any time there's a lunch on the department card, I'm there. The least Behemoth Corp can do is buy me a sandwich once in a while, since it's forever making me cry.

No-one at work, wherever I've been, has ever known anything about me and fandom, and they never will.

[gothams3rdrobin]

It rankles 'cause the woman who started me on this little spiral isn't exactly thin herself. And she's shorter than me, if that's at all possible.

I didn't exactly keep quiet at the time, 'cause I had a brief rant at Suzi about it, and she was quite sympathetic. But it still hurt.

I don't tell them much about fandom - they only really know about the Batman & Robin thing, and that's more than their tiny minds can take in... I think I may have earned a tad more street-cred by explaining that it's creative writing, though.

[gothams3rdrobin]

Yeah, I don't mention the slash thing at all - not even the gay guys in my office would understand.

This is pretty much what I'm thinking - though if I do keep too much to myself, it'll be interpreted by management as unwillingness to be part of the team :-p

[alryssa]

The caveat to not interacting at all, though, is that those false and patently dumb impressions of you don't have a chance to be disproved or clarified. The food comments are entirely out of line, and you really should make that clear.

[gothams3rdrobin]

See, I blatantly don't fit in with the people I work with anymore. Not even those with whom I can swap parenting anecdotes, really. And any attempts I've made to be more extroverted have always failed, 'cause I'm nothing like them. *sighs*

Yeah, the comments are out of line, but what I want to know is where they come from. You know I like my food, and I'm happy to be munching away, but I didn't think I was that bad.