I need to get you to WriterCon. There are crowds at times, yes, but there are also so many little intimate fandom factions breaking off from the main group and chatting and it's just wonderful.
I'm sorry that the drunk lady was obnoxious all over the both of you. That's sucktastic.
I actually spoke with tH about WriterCon today. I said, "I think I'd like to do this thing." and he said, "We'll see how it goes (translation - see how finances are treating us, right now they're so tight we just want to make it through October with food in the fridge)."
And I'm pretty good about speaking up and letting others know when I need to be alone.
Well, it's not until July, and financially speaking it's the cheapest fan con you could hope to attend. (Mainly because it's pretty much JUST fans, though I believe Jane Espenson was a guest the first year.) Basically it's a room, a membership, travel, food and booze, and if you share a room, that saves you money. Plus there is a consuite where food is always available (admittedly not always the healthiest food...) and booze is frequently as well (for a donation.) I've made it my mission to get a group of all my favorite ladies together for the con and misbehave, and you're right at the top of my list.
Anyway. I'm not impressed with the girl with no boundaries AT ALL. I'm sorry that happened to you. I love profanity, make no mistake about it, but I think the c word exists solely for women who mess with other women's husbands.
I can't stand crowds either. Really, can't. Sci-fi conventions make me crazy after about two hours.
But writercon! Eeeeee! I'll make an exception for that.
your self control astonishes me, considering my reaction would have been to break said woman's hand on the spot. you know I think I've actually done the parking lot wine bottle thing before. I can only stand certain places and certain crowds for limited amounts of time. (I can handle the crowds at the local digs in NOLA, but destest the Bourbon strip, and absolutely LOATHE DESPISE AND HATE going ANYWHERE out on the weekend on the Northshore). Funny how we work
I almost pulled a Faith Hill on her, but I truly see her as a sad and desperate woman and not a threat to my relationship. So I let her know what she did wasn't cool in the least and left it at that. She was intimidated as fuck by me for the rest of the night.
I'm fairly extroverted* myself, but I'm not-married to two introverts. So I know exactly what you're talking about here.
How lovely that you and Husband have the routine all worked out for when you get peopled out! I know it took us some time to get it figured out when Monkey & I first paired up. I think some couples have a lot of friction because they think it means something's wrong when you have different tolerance levels. Hooray for healthy relationships.
*Actually, I think I'm bimodal: sometimes I need people, and sometimes I need alone time. But I get plenty of alone time at work, so if I'm craving something, it's typically socialization, not solitude.
It took me a long time to realize what the fuck made this happen. Then it took another while to educate tH to it to a degree that he understands. But we have a good relationship in that way. We've known each other for 15 years - a lot of changes have taken place in those years and we let each other change and grow.
I too get much alone time at work and therefore am more social than when I was working at a bookstore and had to deal with people all day. I think the worst of that time was, after Katrina, my in-laws were living with us. My mother-in-law, after being alone all day, would start chattering away at me as soon as I walked in the door after some exptremely busy days as the store. I thought I was going to slit my wrists after a week. But we all survived.
See, I do shit like go up to the offending party and say, quietly, in her ear: "Whore, I am going to slit your throat in the parking lot." And give her the Smile of Death.
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I'm sorry that the drunk lady was obnoxious all over the both of you. That's sucktastic.
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And I'm pretty good about speaking up and letting others know when I need to be alone.
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Anyway. I'm not impressed with the girl with no boundaries AT ALL. I'm sorry that happened to you. I love profanity, make no mistake about it, but I think the c word exists solely for women who mess with other women's husbands.
I can't stand crowds either. Really, can't. Sci-fi conventions make me crazy after about two hours.
But writercon! Eeeeee! I'll make an exception for that.
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How lovely that you and Husband have the routine all worked out for when you get peopled out! I know it took us some time to get it figured out when Monkey & I first paired up. I think some couples have a lot of friction because they think it means something's wrong when you have different tolerance levels. Hooray for healthy relationships.
*Actually, I think I'm bimodal: sometimes I need people, and sometimes I need alone time. But I get plenty of alone time at work, so if I'm craving something, it's typically socialization, not solitude.
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I too get much alone time at work and therefore am more social than when I was working at a bookstore and had to deal with people all day. I think the worst of that time was, after Katrina, my in-laws were living with us. My mother-in-law, after being alone all day, would start chattering away at me as soon as I walked in the door after some exptremely busy days as the store. I thought I was going to slit my wrists after a week. But we all survived.
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I learned that from my Mom. :D
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I love that bit of phrasing. Tell your husband happy birthday for me.
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