open letter...

[geojaguar]

dear brent -

i can't be jayge's daddy and mommy anymore. i hate what you're doing and i hate the lies i have to tell jayge about how great you are because of 'the divorced peoples rules.'

i bought jayge a cellular phone so that you could call him directly and the last incoming or missed phone call from your numbers was on december 28, 2006.

Comments

[bear_myth]

I'd like to help you. If you still have my number you are welcome to use it. If you dont have it and you want to talk, just leave a note here, cause I still have yours.

[geojaguar]

sounds good. let me get out of palestine and we'll discuss. :)

[observe_such]

I think this part:

"i pray that you gain the wisdom to do something about it before jayge disowns you forever as you have done with your own father. you did not end the cycle of the son learning to hate the unavailable father; you've added another generation."

was the best part of the letter and I hope that it strikes a chord with him, because (insert who or whatever you believe in here) knows that he needs to wake up. Hopefully that will do it.

Much luck to you, lady.

-R

[elkay]

I agree, I think that part was the best too.

From what I have read from you over the years, it sounds like the central problem for B. is the fact that he doesn't really understand how to be a good parent. Maybe he really believes (or convinces himself) he's a good dad, simply because he can't face up to the facts and doesn't have a good model to follow, and at this point in time the level of guilt and remorse would be terrifying if he actually admitted it to himself. It may be that he's just not ever going to get better--I hope not but you know, 'plan for the worst and hope for the best'?

Just rambling...good luck and let us know how it goes
:)

[geojaguar]

i agree he hasn't had good role models for one reason or another. i have to admit that i didn't either. i knew what i didn't want to do and that is at least a starting point. i don't see him really being a parent to jayge. now that he has twins, i find that he's being a parent to them and not jayge. it's just sickening to have to stand by and watch him hurt jayge over and over for no reason other than his own selfishness. :/

[grlinterrupted8]

Poor Jayge...I'm really sorry that his dad has to be like this...and I understand because we are going through the same thing at our house. Tanner's dad hasn't called since the day after xmas...I did the same thing, put him on my cell phone plan and gave his dad the number so he could call him on his own line and not have to even talk to me at all...but he has never even called it once. I really wish I knew why so many men don't feel they should be a parent to their child...the cycle just goes on and on.
hugs to you!!

[sindell357]

You're so good at making people feel stupid in a very nonchalant and logical way.

For this, I love you.

Stay strong :)

[geojaguar]

*smoochiez* ;)