My great-aunt's husband had two brothers and one of them took up with the other one's daughter and the two of them moved out west somewhere (Utah or Nevada). Being a child I only heard surface conversation about this but your story makes me wonder if she was really okay with it, and how long it was going on before we knew. I have no recollection of ever even meeting her and my great-aunt had said, kind of disparagingly, that she "didn't like children" but still I wonder.
Sorry to lay down the heaviness. But ooof,... there are so many more stories about incest than are ever actually talked about. My uncle has spent time trying to convince my mom (his sister) that his granddaughter is in love with him, too... and he hopes they get married someday.
The Horror! Capitalized!
It's hard to explain to people who think this is like a super-rare thing, when 1 in 3 girls is raped or molested in her lifetime and if they were underage at the time, more than half the time its a family member. The exact reason its so horrible to talk about/think about, is exactly how it hides... in that horribleness.
Which had a lot to do with how Freud came to formulate the Electra Complex (surely so many of these girls from respectable families can’t be getting raped by their fathers?)
Yes, yes... he had to find SOME reason to make his strange relationship with his own daughter his **daughter's problem** (oh, it was her problem, just not in the way he preferred to believe) because for some [patriarchal and misogynistic] reason Freud really did live under the delusion that male behavior/psychology is natural and understandable, even if it is unacceptable,.... whereas females are much more like a dysfunctional male than anything else he could imagine.
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Do you have adopted family members! I do!!! I have a TON of adopted grandmas! (And Grandpa's )
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My great-aunt's husband had two brothers and one of them took up with the other one's daughter and the two of them moved out west somewhere (Utah or Nevada). Being a child I only heard surface conversation about this but your story makes me wonder if she was really okay with it, and how long it was going on before we knew. I have no recollection of ever even meeting her and my great-aunt had said, kind of disparagingly, that she "didn't like children" but still I wonder.
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But ooof,... there are so many more stories about incest than are ever actually talked about. My uncle has spent time trying to convince my mom (his sister) that his granddaughter is in love with him, too... and he hopes they get married someday.
The Horror!
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It's hard to explain to people who think this is like a super-rare thing, when 1 in 3 girls is raped or molested in her lifetime and if they were underage at the time, more than half the time its a family member. The exact reason its so horrible to talk about/think about, is exactly how it hides... in that horribleness.
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But you probably knew that.
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