I've been meaning to tell you...

[gaeln]

my dear LJ friends, that for the past little while, we, Daiv, Lauren, and I, have been on a journey that was not only unforseen, but that has been life-transforming, and that, simply put, has had some serious ups and downs

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[beauty_forashes]

This warmed my heart and made me smile so much. Because I'm happy for every transgender young person who has support and parents such as yourself. *hug*

[gaeln]

Thanks, sweetie. we very much appreciate your supportive thoughts. Hugs to you too :)

[gaeln]

We realized it was either acceptance or loosing our child which isn't an option. Thanks for your lovely thoughts.

[lisa_thecat]

Good luck in your journey. I think everybody who is going through a transition remains exactely the same person, just maybe they're happier this way. And change is inevitable and for mothers it is hard to accept anyway. The little child you remember is gone anyway, as they grow up and change into mature individuals. Be strong and stay supportive and everything will be alright!

[gaeln]

Thank you! And you are right, change is inevitale, although honestly, I wasn't expecting quite this much when Lauren was a little kid but, now that we have truly embarked on this journey, she is happier and will be even happier once we switch up the pronoun, a next step that is still a little ways off. One step at a time.

[connorblond]

*hugging you tightly*

I am sure, Lauren and you are all excited and scared at the same time and, of course, happy because she/He found her way.
Thank you for being the mother and father she needed to walk that path. A lot of gay or transgender kids don't have that, you know? My mother, when she wasn't as angry and disappointed anymore, once told me that the worst for her was that I would never give her grandkids. It took me a while to understand that the idea was simply her dreams for a life I would never live. I think it is very okay to mourn what will never be, but at the same time embrace what will. You are very obviously doing that - and Lauren will feel so loved and accepted. It is so precious and important, and I am glad she will have that from you.

Thank you for sharing this with us. And good luck!

[gaeln]

Thank you. I need hugs, I admit.

Lauren is very excited, having waited long enough to become who she should have always been. I'm more scared because hormones do actually change a person and she is changing, in many ways she is the same and in many ways she isn't. It's a struggle and I am like your mom, having seen in my mind's eye her wedding day, her pregnant, grandkids. Thank you very telling me this especially:
"I think it is very okay to mourn what will never be, but at the same time embrace what will"
Perfectly said, Connor. Thank you.

[gaeln]

Thank you, Rebecca, so much

I admit to you I haven't been perfect, a little angry, very scared but the response I've gotten from everyone has been amazing, has given me strength. Still, while the news on TV brings hope, it's also disheartening seeing how some people think, what they believe. We still have a ways to go but are, in the main, moving in the right direction.