1. I think people want to read it because they want to understand their friend and if they're really who they show on the outside or not.. plus people feel compelled to prove and disprove things that have happened. You both are pointing the finger at each other for the lack of friendship between you two, but neither takes responsibility at the end of the day for lying to the other etc. So.. at least for me, clearly that's a serious issue. If you two were best friends and then something like this happens pretty much over night, and neither owns up to the others' accusations, what will happen to my friendship over time? Am I willing to be friends with someone who might just be taking me for the same ride? It's a) important for my wellbeing and security in the future b) important to the now - I want to believe both of you and pretend that you guys are still friends and everything is normal. But now there's an additional stress because I have to act two different ways around each of you so that I don't get shit on when I mention
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4. Having an opinion doesn't mean we know everything. We just have formed a belief, and just because we differ on that doesn't mean our friendship is on groud 0. I've never called you a liar..and trust me, I don't have any problems calling people that. You should know that best between Mike/Tara sagas. So really, if I say things about what I think about the situation and how I feel, it's because of 2, 3, 4 and is honestly what I think at the time. If I just stewed by myself and treated you like crap out of the blue, I think you'd appreciate that less. Even if I've had my doubts I've never been nasty to you, and even though I had those doubts I've never said 'Holly, you lying person you.' I know that neither of you is saying the complete truth and I'm not blinded by any of that. I'll never get both sides of the story or the actual story and I've dealt with that. And I know Mariah isn't the most truthful person since the last major issue with her with lying about age etc. I'm not challenging that or you and I wish you'd
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4. It wasn't really this entire argument that made me think that - it's the subsequent LiveJournal posts that you made, i.e. the huge long one detailing in point-form the reasons why you don't believe I have an anxiety disorder, the shelters, the issues, etc. I never told you about it, but I actually got pretty upset over that, partially because the reason why this whole thing happened in the first place was because I found out that Mariah has been telling all of those things to EVERYBODY that we both know. I had thought that you'd believe me about those things, because when we first started talking you seemed like a really honest and straightforward person (which is the #1 quality that I admire in a person, particularly girls), but then I find out that you'd been having doubts about its validity since the beginning. It was that and the C/P of the conversation with Sara that you posted that made me think, "Well, what's the point in telling her anything if she's just going to think I'm lying anyway
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1. I don't even KNOW what Sara said to you, apart from the fact that she offended you. Neither of you told me anything about it, and I can't imagine what she could have possibly said to you that was so bad, because normally she's a really nice person and we get along pretty well so far. I didn't ask her to bitch at you or whatever, if that's what you're thinking, and if you don't believe me then you can e-mail her to avoid direct contact. Personally I don't care if you talk to/are still friends with Mariah, because it's really not my place at ALL to tell you who to talk to - and I don't feel like you're choosing her over me by being friends with her, and hopefully she feels the same way. I'll NEVER ask you to choose between us and the day I do is the day you're free to call me a bad friend
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