Transitioning/New Roommates?

[ceresvulcan]

I have not started T yet because in a few months I'm moving to a new city, so my therapist thought it best to wait and that way I won't have to switch doctors so early on. But my concern is with my roommates. They are friends, I'm out to them, but they often still use my birth name and female pronouns. And one of them has a 12 year old son who will

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[missingkeys]

I can't give any advice about roommates, but kids are generally easy if the parents are open minded. My eldest is eleven and she alternates between not caring and being excited for me when things happen--my husband came home from work the day I decided to start shaving and she grabbed him when he walked through the door squeeing, "You should see Mama's beard!" (I know that Mama's a female term, but I'm letting them choose.)

Another friend told her daughter, also eleven, about my transition. The kid replied, "Oh yes, I heard on the radio about somebody who was born in a man's body and decided to change that," and her only concern was that I might be upset if she forgot and used my old name.

If you're comfortable, I'd recommend saying that you're happy to answer any questions that he comes up with. My kids don't care if I bind or not, if I wear my old clothes to the gym, or if I just up and wear a suit. Still, best of luck, because all of that sounds really stressful.

[chasingtides]

Kids can be pretty open minded.

I came out to my best friend when my goddaughter was two (this year). Obviously she's still young, but she's gone from her blanky coming from her "other mama" to coming from "dadadada" and being fine around me. She's even called me "Dada Chase" when I'm not wearing a binder (babysitting right before we both go to bed) so I think it highly depends on the parents.

[mountain_man08]

In my 10 years of t-experience, I've changed doctors several times through several moves. Changing doctors is not as much of a challenge (depending on where you live I guess), compared to the challenge of NOT transitioning (for me). It was actually easier for me to land a new doctor after I started T because they just had to continue the course I was on and not "be the one to make the choice to support my medical transition." - Which I think for some non-trans friendly doctors can be an ethical issue.

I know that's not what you were asking about, but I wanted to share based on your first sentence. I don't think that some kids fully comprehend the whole puberty process and timing, and even gender. That is to say, I think some are more open to changes based on their views of the world and themselves. Maybe this kid is one of those kids :)

[ceresvulcan]

well another reason that I'm waiting is because right now I live with my mother, and she pretty much said "you're not doing that while you still live here."

As for the other bit, I'm going to talk to my friend about it soon.