Ditto on the shower. Just start peeing without the STP while showering so you are only worried about one thing at a time. Once you can reliably pee without effort while standing, try it naked in the shower (with the shower off this time) until you get it without leaks. Then naked into the toilet, then clothed into the toilet, then in public in a bathroom that you are familiar with. (I stress out over new situations so I tried to ease into it slowly, you might not take as long as I did to get good at it and feel ok about it in grungy bathrooms full of random dudes.)
Relax. When you work up to standing in front of the toliet, keep your feet shoulder length apart. It helps your stance, also wait till you have to go to pratice. But not the over full "must go now!", that makes praticing tricky.
In addition to practicing in the shower, which I might amend to: whenever you shower just pee, I would try just standing in front of the toilet with your packer in position, don't actively try to o. It doesn't matter if you go or not. Taking the performance pressure out of it helps you relax. Anxiety doesn't help you go. Are you getting anxious and worked up about not being able to do it, or are the muscles that assist with peeing standing up just not strong enough yet? For me, I have anxiety about urinals and stuff like that, and using urinals is important for my QOL and identity for personal reasons, so overcoming the anxiety about not being able to 'perform' was really my main goal. Most pee-shyness is often really about the fear of *not* being able to pee, which for some(many?) men makes them feel less masculine. It becomes a cycle where you worry you won't go, and bc you're worried, you are tense and can't, and it cycles on. I mean, of course, STP'ing is not necessarily masculine, but culturally-speaking peeing standing has a
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