two questions

[jefflewis]

I'm thinking of, when university starts back up in January, of returning and asking all of my teachers to call me Jeh (Jay). It's not my chosen male name, but it's an in-between, gender neutral name that I could use while I'm in the in-between, not quite passing yet mode

Comments

[k0m1sch]

I went by the first letter of my coercively-given name this semester, because I needed to not hear the girl's name and I hadn't quite stopped denying before the semester started. I'm changing it to an actual name next semester.

You can say you don't like the name you were given. That always worked for me. :)

[jefflewis]

This is the same reason why I want to go as Jay before I switch to my chosen male name. I'm not 100% sure I'm going to transition yet, there's still that bit of questioning in there, but I need to stop hearing the girl's name.

I could say I don't like the name I was given, but one of the girls I'm going to have to explain this to happens to have the same name. So I might not tell her I don't like the name. ;)

[k0m1sch]

It's a step, and it's okay to take as big or small of steps as we need to. Everyone walks their own path. c:

Spff I suppose XD If you know her really well you could joke that this was all because you couldn't deal with having to compete with her in names. I'm always spouting bullshit like that.

[alifjiim]

I went by AJ for awhile (June-Oct. of this year) before I started introducing myself as (An)Drew.

[xxweaponx]

If you are going by the name Jay, why not go by the name Jay? This just makes things more difficult for your instructors-a confusing spelling for a common name, which serves to make it more difficult to remember. We discussed the creative spelling issue here many times before, if Jay is the name you like, then be Jay.

[pointfivefag]

If that's the way he wants to spell it, why not? Maybe he doesn't think "Jay" fits him. I changed my name to a common one, but I chose to spell it differently than most. I decided to go gender-neutral for various personal reasons, but if I couldn't have a definite male name at this point in time, I at least wanted it to be closer to the masculine version, for my own comfort. It doesn't mean a person is being "creative" and even if they are, that's up to them.

[gaysexual]

I'm all for choosing what fits you, whether that's a standard name/spelling or something off-the-wall or unusual. But, OP, just make sure you're aware of the potential issues with spelling your name Jeh: being called "Jeh" (as in, how it's spelled); always having to clarify the pronounciation of your name in text, or clarifying the spelling of it when speaking; people consistently spelling your name wrong; having to answer questions about why your name is spelled that way; people taking your name as a goofy/casual nickname rather than your actual name...etc etc.

But if these are not significant issues for you personally, I don't see any problem with spelling your name that way.

[heartttcore]

I shortened my birthname to Cal as an in-between thing, and go by Caleb now usually. If anyone asked that I didn't want to out myself to, I just said it was a nickname that I liked. It seemed to satisfy them, although most people didn't really seem to care.

[meegosh]

I don't use an inbetween name but I am not fully transitioned at the moment. When I'm in a group of people I've only just met I will generally go by a pet version of my new chosen name, or indeed my chosen name. I've had a couple of odd reactions but I mostly just let people wonder. I had some people who didn't ask me why I was that name until they'd known me for a while and someone else who sat in front of me and tried to figure out a feminine name my pet name could have been a version of. Generally though people don't ask. And if they do - I tell them it's a nickname.