I was going to take your poll, but none of the possible answers really fit. I have always been attracted to both men and women, but never EQUALLY, which is the option you give.
"I know from reading a prior post that there are a lot of folk who are bisexual but lean more one way than another, I'm not really sure what to do about that, I guess just use your best judgement as to whether you think you should check a bisexual box or whether you fit better into a "attracted to men"/"attracted to women" category." that's my best answer, obviously the poll can't encompass everyone, but as i said, doing a kinsey scale comparison isn't really going to work. but i probably shouldn't've put the word "equally" in there.
i understand if you really feel like none of the poll options work for you, but if i had to simplify, i'd probably put "I used to be attracted to women, but now I'm attracted to both"
decent poll Evin...i think the main thing i have noticed is i am much more attracted to ftm's than i was before. i don't think that has anything to do with T. I am just really attracted to the masculinized body, flat chest and the T enhanced cock *grin* i'd still say i'm attracted to women, gay men and ftm's....
My experience doesn't fit the poll -- I'm going to take a whack at articulating why.
Before acknowledging that I was trans, a large part of my identity was about being exclusively attracted to women. Because of this I was welcome in a lot more "boys' club" type spaces and didn't have to worry about being relegated to the "girlfriend position." (Oh god did I not want to be any guy's girlfriend.) Those benefits were extremely important to me and, in order to justify them, it is possible that I refused to acknowledge an interest in men.
Because: before starting testosterone I had an unexpected freakout -- which, now that I look back on it, was a lot more homophobic than I was willing to acknowledge at the time -- because of the fear that T would make me gay. I didn't want to come out to everyone I knew a third time (first two being "lesbian" and "guy"), and there may have been other stuff going on too. But after kicking my own ass for a few weeks, I acknowledged that if I could realize that I was trans after years of repression, I
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i have had a similar experience to yours. i was looking through the tags in this community, and actually found a long comment that describes my personal experience and thoughts. i definitely think that there are non-organic factors (i.e. more societally driven) that contributed to my experience of changing sexual attractions/orientations. however, i have no idea how a poll would capture those. and it's pretty hard, if not down right impossible to isolate the variables that contribute to the experience of changing sexual attractions. i suppose i should say, though, that by gauging this according to starting T/how long one has been on T, I'm not assuming that the chemical T is the only thing changing people's attractions...it's also a huge benchmark for how one is perceived societally and how those interactions can influence how someone identifies sexual orientation wise. but i thank you for bringing this issue up.
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I hope this gets a lot of participation.
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that's my best answer, obviously the poll can't encompass everyone, but as i said, doing a kinsey scale comparison isn't really going to work. but i probably shouldn't've put the word "equally" in there.
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Before acknowledging that I was trans, a large part of my identity was about being exclusively attracted to women. Because of this I was welcome in a lot more "boys' club" type spaces and didn't have to worry about being relegated to the "girlfriend position." (Oh god did I not want to be any guy's girlfriend.) Those benefits were extremely important to me and, in order to justify them, it is possible that I refused to acknowledge an interest in men.
Because: before starting testosterone I had an unexpected freakout -- which, now that I look back on it, was a lot more homophobic than I was willing to acknowledge at the time -- because of the fear that T would make me gay. I didn't want to come out to everyone I knew a third time (first two being "lesbian" and "guy"), and there may have been other stuff going on too. But after kicking my own ass for a few weeks, I acknowledged that if I could realize that I was trans after years of repression, I ( ... )
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but i thank you for bringing this issue up.
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