Yeah, I so get that. I have a sister like this and my husband's whole family is the same way. (When I lost my last child, my father in law said that this was God's way of telling me to stop polluting their gene pool and that he was so glad we lost our son. This said to me the day I got home from the hospital.) (And when I had my youngest, my sister pitched a fit that I "got to have" two girls and she only had boys
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Well, your father-in-law is an idiot. Your sister...yeah, because you choose what you're going to have. *eyeroll*
It drives me insane, really. Because it's like I said yesterday on the phone to El...if she wasn't family, I'd have nothing to do with her and I would've cut her out of my life a long time ago. But, I can't...and that's so frustrating and annoying.
And whenever I get upset about her actions (not just towards me and El, but towards their parents, and just her lack of responsibility), I get..."that's just J..."
What?
El tried to explain it to me, and I get it to a point. But..."she's just being j" doesn't show/teach her anything about her behaviour.
See, I never get that as an excuse. But it seems to be the only one people like this ever have. "Oh, that's just how he is." And that means we have to put up with it why
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Aww honey. Its a sad fact that we can't choose our family or our partners family. All I can say is try to not think about her, love El, and concentrate on the wonderful thing you two are trying to achieve. Easier said than done I'm sure but you certainly don't need the extra shit right now.
The thing is that while people annoy me, she is the only person who can make me so bloody angry so bloody quickly. To be very honest, if Georgia (her daughter) wasn't involved, I would cut her out of my life. I cut my father out when I realized that my relationship with him wasn't beneficial to me. That sounds cold, I know...but my father put me thrugh a lot of emotional trauma that I'm still working through...and I cut ties with him when I was 12.
But, J is vindictive...and if you say/do anything against her...she holds Georgia away from you. She's done that to us before...no time with Georgia, because you didn't agree with me.
I don't think anyone realizes how much I wish I could cut ties with J.
I'm not trying to be heartless, it's just...a person shouldn't have to have someone who continually hurts them in their life, just because they're family.
I am so sorry to hear this, what a narcissist. But suspect she'll never change, they rarely do. I hope you are able to stay away from her as much as possible.
At least simply ignore her and her insensitive prattling.
There are some issues there that could possibly be helped (or even fixed) if she would get help. But, she doesn't take her therapy sessions seriously...draws, writes notes, writes to do lists. She thinks that there's nothing wrong with her.
And I just want to throttle her more often than not.
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It drives me insane, really. Because it's like I said yesterday on the phone to El...if she wasn't family, I'd have nothing to do with her and I would've cut her out of my life a long time ago. But, I can't...and that's so frustrating and annoying.
And whenever I get upset about her actions (not just towards me and El, but towards their parents, and just her lack of responsibility), I get..."that's just J..."
What?
El tried to explain it to me, and I get it to a point. But..."she's just being j" doesn't show/teach her anything about her behaviour.
Not that she really cares anyway.
*hugs and much love back*
Thank you.
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Hugs! xx Marg.
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The thing is that while people annoy me, she is the only person who can make me so bloody angry so bloody quickly. To be very honest, if Georgia (her daughter) wasn't involved, I would cut her out of my life. I cut my father out when I realized that my relationship with him wasn't beneficial to me. That sounds cold, I know...but my father put me thrugh a lot of emotional trauma that I'm still working through...and I cut ties with him when I was 12.
But, J is vindictive...and if you say/do anything against her...she holds Georgia away from you. She's done that to us before...no time with Georgia, because you didn't agree with me.
I don't think anyone realizes how much I wish I could cut ties with J.
I'm not trying to be heartless, it's just...a person shouldn't have to have someone who continually hurts them in their life, just because they're family.
*hugs* xx
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At least simply ignore her and her insensitive prattling.
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There are some issues there that could possibly be helped (or even fixed) if she would get help. But, she doesn't take her therapy sessions seriously...draws, writes notes, writes to do lists. She thinks that there's nothing wrong with her.
And I just want to throttle her more often than not.
Thank you. *hugs*
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*hugs*
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