Oh, your cousin and my sister would get on great. (She left her husband of ten years to move in with a guy who had a wife and kids in another state. She purposefully got pregnant by him, thinking he would marry her. When he found out, he dumped her for his boyfriend. Oy!)
So, she's 24 and has no high school diploma? She thought this was brilliant why?
Is she keeping the baby? Is the man going to help at least? Am I asking questions that are none of my business and 12 shades of way too personal?
No, I can see why you would be upset. There are families who want kids and can't have them, who would love them and take care of them, give them a good life. And then there's this brain-trust, who is going to look at this child as a burden, something to be dealt with. (Or in the case of my sister, the plan that failed.) At best, this child is going to be brought up by a single mother who can't even take care of herself and this child will be lucky to break that cycle. I can't even think about at worst.
The thing is...when Raechel was younger...she was compared to me. And, I think we would've been more alike had I decided to take a different path when I was a teenager. As in...I would've been more like her. Except for the not finishing high school part. Mom would've killed me. *LOL*
My aunt and my mother are so very different. It amazes me that they both came from my grandparents. In fact, my grandfather has been known to say "You know, we raised two fairly intelligent girls. I don't know why L turned out the way she did..."
Both of L's kids left high school their junior year. Jeremy, at least, got his GED. Of course...he has his issues...major ones at that. And to be honest, I'm surprised someone hasn't killed him yet. *sigh*
Yeah, apparently she is keeping the baby. And the father, from what I read on his facebook page, seems happy about it. He also seems to be more into PlayStation than anything else...
*hugs* Thanks! (And if there's a "good" thing about this...she's due the middle of February.)
Okay, I so cannot see you doing anything this daft. You are one of the most thoughtful people I know. (As in, you stop, breathe, think, *then* do. Of course, a lot of that could be El. But still, I just can't see you setting your sights on a married person or not knowing how one gets pregnant.) And yeah, I SO couldn't picture you dropping out and not even getting a GED
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I take it that there is more to this story, and that is just too complicated to explain... Is she the first of the three grandchildren to have a baby? ... and also, did she post who the father was on facebook and that he is married to someone else? Because I have to say I would find that...funny... is the word that comes to mind, more in the sense of odd funny, not so much haha funny. Family can be very aggravating, but most of the time they are worth it.
There is more...some that's too complicated and some that can't be talked about right now. Her baby won't be the first great-grandchild for our grandparents.
Oh yeah...she posted his name and changed her relationship status to reflect being in a relationship with him. Of course...90% of his posts are about PlayStation.
He sounds like a winner to me.
I don't know...part of it is kinda haha funny. But, only a tiny sliver.
To be very honest...the only people in my biological family that I have anything to do with are Mom, Grandma, Grandpa...Grandma's siblings and their husbands...and Grandpa's siblings and their spouses.
I don't have much to do with my Aunt and cousins...due to my Aunt's husband. And Jeremy is so much like his father it's scary. Raechel and I are too far apart in age to really have a relationship.
PS Thanks! You too! I miss the fireworks on the 4th. :(
I also wonder what this playstation guy's wife thinks of the situation.
Sounds like you still have a good portion of the family tree, you just ignore one branch for the most part. Most families have a branch or two they choose not to associate with.
PS Thanks. I didn't get to actually light any fireworks this year, which is a first. But I do get to see neighbors and the community fireworks in the sky :)
*Hugs* I was a single mother at 24, (not by choice or actions beyond my own control) and it's not exactly what I'd call fun. Granted, my other half pissed off with his bit on the side which I never really forgave him for, but it's always about my child as far as I'm concerned! You get used to people calling you selfish, but more often than not, mud sticks.
Thankfully, I'm half way through my degree in law/politics, which will serve me well in more ways than one! Children are so innocent and child support doesnt make up for anything. I completely understand why you're upset.
I'm pleased to say that my son is a spoilt little poo though, and I wouldn't have him any other way!
See...you're doing something though. I have so much respect for single mothers who try to make their lives (their own and their children's) better.
What you're doing is amazing!
What Raechel is doing is stupid. All she cares about is drinking, smoking, and having sex. And I think that she really believes that having a baby and working a minimum wage job is going to be easy.
And it's hard enough being on minimum wage in the States if it's just you.
I hope you understand that my rant wasn't about single mothers in general...because it wasn't. Mom was a single parent (granted I was 10 when she and my father divorced) and it was hard for her. But, when I look back on it...she did everything she could to make it not so bad for me.
I know quite a few single mothers who have my complete respect. They go to school, make a better life for their child, and their biggest concern is not themselves, but the child.
I look at them and I am in awe of them. I could never do that. College is hard enough (and law school? You are my hero.) when you can live in a dorm and your free time is for studying. But to have to work and take care of a child while you do it? I have nothing but respect for women like that.
It's the women who don't think or don't care and the child is going to be a cute accessory, like Paris Hilton's purse dog, that annoy me.
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So, she's 24 and has no high school diploma? She thought this was brilliant why?
Is she keeping the baby? Is the man going to help at least? Am I asking questions that are none of my business and 12 shades of way too personal?
No, I can see why you would be upset. There are families who want kids and can't have them, who would love them and take care of them, give them a good life. And then there's this brain-trust, who is going to look at this child as a burden, something to be dealt with. (Or in the case of my sister, the plan that failed.) At best, this child is going to be brought up by a single mother who can't even take care of herself and this child will be lucky to break that cycle. I can't even think about at worst.
:::Hugs you::: I'm sorry.
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My aunt and my mother are so very different. It amazes me that they both came from my grandparents. In fact, my grandfather has been known to say "You know, we raised two fairly intelligent girls. I don't know why L turned out the way she did..."
Both of L's kids left high school their junior year. Jeremy, at least, got his GED. Of course...he has his issues...major ones at that. And to be honest, I'm surprised someone hasn't killed him yet. *sigh*
Yeah, apparently she is keeping the baby. And the father, from what I read on his facebook page, seems happy about it. He also seems to be more into PlayStation than anything else...
*hugs* Thanks! (And if there's a "good" thing about this...she's due the middle of February.)
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But, I try. And it depends on what it is. Something like that, yeah...there'd be thinking.
And no...you weren't being too harsh. :D And you can rant any time, sweetie! :D
Love ya!
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PS Happy 4th of July.
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Oh yeah...she posted his name and changed her relationship status to reflect being in a relationship with him. Of course...90% of his posts are about PlayStation.
He sounds like a winner to me.
I don't know...part of it is kinda haha funny. But, only a tiny sliver.
To be very honest...the only people in my biological family that I have anything to do with are Mom, Grandma, Grandpa...Grandma's siblings and their husbands...and Grandpa's siblings and their spouses.
I don't have much to do with my Aunt and cousins...due to my Aunt's husband. And Jeremy is so much like his father it's scary. Raechel and I are too far apart in age to really have a relationship.
PS Thanks! You too! I miss the fireworks on the 4th. :(
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Sounds like you still have a good portion of the family tree, you just ignore one branch for the most part. Most families have a branch or two they choose not to associate with.
PS Thanks. I didn't get to actually light any fireworks this year, which is a first. But I do get to see neighbors and the community fireworks in the sky :)
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*Hugs* I was a single mother at 24, (not by choice or actions beyond my own control) and it's not exactly what I'd call fun. Granted, my other half pissed off with his bit on the side which I never really forgave him for, but it's always about my child as far as I'm concerned! You get used to people calling you selfish, but more often than not, mud sticks.
Thankfully, I'm half way through my degree in law/politics, which will serve me well in more ways than one! Children are so innocent and child support doesnt make up for anything. I completely understand why you're upset.
I'm pleased to say that my son is a spoilt little poo though, and I wouldn't have him any other way!
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What you're doing is amazing!
What Raechel is doing is stupid. All she cares about is drinking, smoking, and having sex. And I think that she really believes that having a baby and working a minimum wage job is going to be easy.
And it's hard enough being on minimum wage in the States if it's just you.
I hope you understand that my rant wasn't about single mothers in general...because it wasn't. Mom was a single parent (granted I was 10 when she and my father divorced) and it was hard for her. But, when I look back on it...she did everything she could to make it not so bad for me.
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I know quite a few single mothers who have my complete respect. They go to school, make a better life for their child, and their biggest concern is not themselves, but the child.
I look at them and I am in awe of them. I could never do that. College is hard enough (and law school? You are my hero.) when you can live in a dorm and your free time is for studying. But to have to work and take care of a child while you do it? I have nothing but respect for women like that.
It's the women who don't think or don't care and the child is going to be a cute accessory, like Paris Hilton's purse dog, that annoy me.
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