Well I do have a lot of friends that are "truly" bisexual and I know we have had this discussion before but since you asked again... By truly bisexual I mean that they could have a relationship with either gender, or at least be sexually active with a member of the same gender without having to have a bunch of boys in the room doing kegstands and going "oooohh shes kissing a girl"
What I affectionately call a "girls gone wild bisexual".
I think love can transcend gender. I think it really is about the person you love not what sex they are. It may not be for everyone but if it's for you then be happy. Not many people in the world get the chance to be.
And no one should make comments to him. Any gal would be so lucky to have a bisexual boyfriend :P That's like the primary fantasy of 90% of the women I know.
Whatever is cleverdragonflii_echoJanuary 22 2009, 19:36:54 UTC
Well, coming from one of the only truly heterosexual Gothic/ Alternative girls I know, I have no problem with bi-sexuality. I think that whatever/ whoever someone wants to do is their business. As long as it's safe and all parties involved respect each other and themselves, then do what thou will...
I personally have never felt sexual towards another woman. I find plenty of women attractive and love the lines of a woman's body. But, I that stems from an artistic appreciation. TRUST ME, I have been in plenty of situations where if WAS willing to be with girls, I would have. I just don't need any extra vagina.
The only beef I have with bisexuality in the gothic scene are the fluffy pseudo bi-sexual girls who actually are only into kissing girls to elicit attention from the opposite sex. It honestly gave me a bad opinion of bisexuality for awhile. Because of them, I viewed bi girls as whores for quite some time.
Personally, I think that people take themselves, and their labels, way too fucking seriously. I mean...what does it really matter, who your with, what gender they are, for how long. Shouldn't it just be enough for people to just have discussion about their preferences, their likes and dislikes
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Another straight person signing in here... Unfortunately most of the "bi" "women" that I've run into either out in society or whatnot are the "OMGlook I make outz with girls, I'm hawt!" teen/preteen/college girls type which does, unfortunately, make women who are bi look slutty. They seem to be doing it more for the attention that they get from men rather than wanting to be with a woman as phyrra has pointed out. That's in addition to the porn aimed at men with the obviously straight women who are "screwing for the camera/money" Then again, I hate ALL porn in which the actors acknowledge the camera instead of focusing on their partner. :-p Conversely, I just recently found a high school classmate (they were a year ahead) that identified as a lesbian when we were in school and has since had a sex change!
I'm bi. I'm married to a man. That doesn't make me less bi. Hell, I dated my maid of honor for over a year.
It's not selfish-- it's just the way I operate. I am attracted to both sexes and have had romantic feelings for both. I committed to an individual who happens to be male-- and I'm monogamous until there is a time we decide to bring someone else in or whatnot, on the occasion that ever happens. Because my husband is straight, that individual would likely be female, to suit us both.
That said, people who identify as straight or gay and look down on bisexuals as some sort of dirty or misguided halfbreeds make me wanna choke. Ditto the bi-for-the-attention types.
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What I affectionately call a "girls gone wild bisexual".
I think love can transcend gender. I think it really is about the person you love not what sex they are. It may not be for everyone but if it's for you then be happy. Not many people in the world get the chance to be.
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O_o Why's that? (Assuming that the relationship is monogamous, so it's not automatically saying "Woo! MFM threesome!")
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I personally have never felt sexual towards another woman. I find plenty of women attractive and love the lines of a woman's body. But, I that stems from an artistic appreciation. TRUST ME, I have been in plenty of situations where if WAS willing to be with girls, I would have. I just don't need any extra vagina.
The only beef I have with bisexuality in the gothic scene are the fluffy pseudo bi-sexual girls who actually are only into kissing girls to elicit attention from the opposite sex. It honestly gave me a bad opinion of bisexuality for awhile. Because of them, I viewed bi girls as whores for quite some time.
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Unfortunately most of the "bi" "women" that I've run into either out in society or whatnot are the "OMGlook I make outz with girls, I'm hawt!" teen/preteen/college girls type which does, unfortunately, make women who are bi look slutty.
They seem to be doing it more for the attention that they get from men rather than wanting to be with a woman as phyrra has pointed out.
That's in addition to the porn aimed at men with the obviously straight women who are "screwing for the camera/money"
Then again, I hate ALL porn in which the actors acknowledge the camera instead of focusing on their partner. :-p
Conversely, I just recently found a high school classmate (they were a year ahead) that identified as a lesbian when we were in school and has since had a sex change!
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It's not selfish-- it's just the way I operate. I am attracted to both sexes and have had romantic feelings for both. I committed to an individual who happens to be male-- and I'm monogamous until there is a time we decide to bring someone else in or whatnot, on the occasion that ever happens. Because my husband is straight, that individual would likely be female, to suit us both.
That said, people who identify as straight or gay and look down on bisexuals as some sort of dirty or misguided halfbreeds make me wanna choke. Ditto the bi-for-the-attention types.
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