safe spaces that no longer feel safe

[fragilespiral12]

i am in the middle of a brouhah that has severely fucked up my understanding of safe spaces and community and everything else.  There has been issues over at Pams House Blend in regards to language and privilege and all sorts of issues surrounding those type of things.  And I feel bad cuz PHB is the first blog i go to in the morning and one of

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[lady_door]

That sucks. I'm sorry. People can be such assholes on the internet.

[oh_my_words]

wow, i'm sorry. :( i mean, it sucks bad enough when Regular People are an asshole, but it really sucks to get this shit from people who oughta know better-- or at least from people who oughta know not to say anything if they don't know what they're talking about.

i've definitely had this fear in regards to the relationship between the LGB community and the trans community; i kinda shy away from LGB forums because i'm afraid they won't understand trans issues and i'm terrified of being invalidated for the way i ID. that rejection from the gay community itself would be far too hard to take, i think. but then on the other hand, it's tough as far as trans communities go because i feel like a lot of trans people ID as straight, and that can feel like a validation of their status as trans. Kinda like, "Oh, I like women-- that must mean I'm a man." I certainly felt like I should prefer women, and my being an androphile does feel like it's "not trans enough" in some ways, and that's another way i'm afraid of being invalidated

[kitkate7]

I don't know much of what you're talking about, but I say, let your voice be heard! And say what you just said, and call these people out on their hate speech. An anonymous or quasi-anonymous forum such as those provided by the internet does not give people license to behave without accountability. Racism and other "isms" are not cool. I think it's brave of you to speak out here, and I hope you say the same to the people who are spewing vitriol.

[talking_apple]

Being anonymous on the internet somehow gives people the privilege to attack others. *sigh*

Also, I'm just recently becoming aware of my sexual ID, and I'm somewhat new to the LGBT community. Do you have any suggestions for blogs and Web sites I can go to? Thanks.